My menopausal wife is just offering me oral sex as long as I don’t touch her
DEAR DEIDRE: MY wife and I used to have a great sex life but now she’s just offering me oral sex as long as I don’t touch her.
I’m 46, she’s 48 and entering the menopause.
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She says she loves me but the thought of being physical makes her sick. She says it’s not me, it’s her.
We had a huge row after I stupidly agreed that maybe I should see someone else. I apologised, as I don’t want anyone else, but she recoiled when I went to cuddle her.
She offered me oral sex, even though she doesn’t want to do it. I’m extremely frustrated but I don’t want to feel I’m forcing her.
She’s not keen on trying medication as she says it will increase her chances of breast cancer. I’m struggling.
DEIDRE SAYS: The hormonal changes of the menopause can not only take away the desire for sex but make even a loving touch feel repulsive. This is very hard on both of you.
It would help you both to read The Good Menopause Guide, by Liz Earle, as there are many ways to alleviate her symptoms other than HRT. And urge your wife to see her GP to talk it all over when doctors’ practices get back to normal.