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I have a female alter-ego so I can buy ladies’ clothes online – I feel ashamed

DEAR DEIDRE: I FEEL guilty because I pretend to be a woman so I can buy ladies’ clothes online.

My real name is Peter and I’m a 44-year-old guy, with a responsible job. When I’m ordering online, I call myself Angela.

I have a female alter-ego so I can buy ladies' clothes online - I feel ashamed
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I have a female alter-ego so I can buy ladies' clothes online - I feel ashamed

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Angela is like the other half of me. She has a distinct personality.

She wears pretty floral dresses, high heels and make-up and she has a long blonde wig.

Just seeing her name printed on my packages when they arrive gives me a thrill.

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I love trying on the clothes, but I only wear them around my house.

Nobody else knows Angela exists and I’d be mortified if anyone found out. Is what I’m doing wrong?

DEIDRE SAYS: There’s nothing wrong with buying women’s clothes online or dressing up in them.

Neither is there any problem with having an alter ego named Angela.

You are not harming anyone and have no reason at all to feel ashamed.

Try not to feel guilty about this. Cross-dressing satisfies your need to express your feminine side.

My support pack on cross-dressing should give you some reassurance.

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