My friend is toxic and has an opinion on everything
DEAR DEIDRE: MY friendship group is becoming toxic and I can’t stand to be part of all the upset any longer.
I am 41 and work with a woman of 50. If any of the eight of us go out without her, we get a “thanks for the invite” message on our group chat.
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Also, she’s constantly gossiping and back-biting.
I even had to prove I’d taken my mother to the cinema last week by taking a photo, as she was convinced I was out with another one of the group.
DEIDRE SAYS: Invite everyone out for a meal or a drink and clear the air. In a quiet moment, tell the ladies your group is too big for you all to go out together all of the time.
Ask that you all have an understanding that you won’t always be invited to everything. My support pack Standing Up For Yourself will help.
If the gossiping doesn’t stop, give this older lady less ammunition by engaging with her less.