My greedy daughter expects me to fork out £20,000 for her wedding
DEAR DEIDRE: MY daughter expects me to pay for her entire wedding because it’s “tradition”.
But I can’t fork out £20,000 for one day!
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She’s 29 and I’m her 63-year-old dad.
When she got engaged last year, I thought she’d be grateful for the £5,000 cheque her mum and I gave her
But then she turned up on our doorstep demanding another £15,000.
Apparently, her in-laws “will only pay for the limo”.
She says we need to stick to tradition and pay up.
She’s already booked a castle for the event and reception, as well as a top-notch caterer, and an Abba tribute band.
None of my friends have paid for their kids’ entire weddings – I don’t know where my daughter has got this idea from.
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My wife avoids confrontation at any cost, and so we often cave in to her outlandish demands.
But surely I need to draw the line here?
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DEIDRE SAYS: It would seem your daughter has got used to you giving in to her demands and now it is coming up to her big day she thinks you’ll do exactly the same again.
Emotions and expectations can run high in the lead up to a wedding but sit your daughter down and explain firmly that you don’t have £20,000 to spare and that £5,000 was a generous gift.
My support pack Standing Up For Yourself will help you get your point across.