I came out to my wife as bisexual but now she says she doesn’t want me
DEAR DEIDRE: I CONFESSED to my wife that I was equally attracted to men and women a few weeks ago.
We’ve been married for ten years. We are both 45 and have two teenage children.
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I’m not sure why I told her really. Everyone assumes I’m straight. I’ve never told anyone about my sexuality before.
I went to an all-boys school where I had a couple of sexual encounters in my teens.
But I’ve never had a relationship with a man, nor do I want one, but my wife says she can’t trust me now or can’t risk spending more years with me if one day I want to be with a man.
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I love my wife. I feel crushed by her rejection.
Do I walk away?
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DEIDRE SAYS: No, not without a fight.
Our sexuality is on a sliding scale. For some people, it lies somewhere in the middle between same sex and opposite sex.
You’ve never veered away from the love you have for your wife but now you’ve confessed, it’s making her question your marriage.
You’ve relieved yourself of this secret knowledge, but left her with anxiety.
My support pack Bisexual Questions will help to address some of her fears and show you both where to find emotional support.