Everything is perfect in my relationship except we rarely have sex
DEAR DEIDRE: EVERYTHING is perfect in my relationship except we rarely have sex.
I'm 25 and my boyfriend’s 27. We’ve been together for three years.
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We kiss and cuddle and hold hands, but we don’t do anything more. I’ve tried but can’t get in the mood.
We met when we were teenagers but broke up after a couple of months when he dumped me.
I was heartbroken and never got over it.
I was so happy when we got back together but sex has never been great.
My boyfriend takes medication for depression and rarely wants sex.
I have anxiety but only have a small dose of medication, although it seems to have suppressed my libido too.
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I have put on weight and hate the thought of my boyfriend seeing me naked. I feel unattractive.
We have talked about the lack of sex but are unsure what to do.
DEIDRE SAYS: Anxiety and depression can have a major impact on our happiness and sex drive.
A low sex drive can also be a side- effect of antidepressants, so tell your boyfriend to speak to his GP.
If your anxiety is linked to unresolved issues, therapy will help.
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