I’ve been on my own for 20 years – I feel I’ve missed out on a relationship and family

DEAR DEIDRE: AFTER 20 years being on my own, I feel lonely, old and unattractive.

I’ve forgotten how to dress and I just laze around in leggings and baggy jumpers, which I know isn’t helping.

I’m 50 and haven’t had a relationship since I was 30.

That’s when my long-term partner broke up with me, deciding he didn’t want to get married.

Since then, there’s been nobody. And now I’ve missed the boat when it comes to having children.

I’d really like to find love before it’s too late and I end up a weird cat lady.

Watching my friends get on with their lives, get married and have kids was hard.

I feel I’ve missed out on a relationship and family, and someone to share things with.

I’ve been on dates, but the only men who seem interested in me are either pensioners, or married men looking for a fling.

I know I look good for my age – I have nice skin and hair – but I don’t know how to dress stylishly.

I used to be a size 10 but now I’m a 16, so none of my nice old clothes fit.

How can I sort out my appearance and meet someone who’s right for me?

DEIDRE SAYS: It might not feel like it, but you have lots of time to find a fulfilling relationship.

Having self-confidence makes such a difference. Read my support pack Raising Self-esteem.

There are now lots of bloggers offering style advice to older women, and those who aren’t model-size.

Check out Erica Davies on Instagram, who should inspire you to dress for your size and lifestyle.

My support pack Finding The Love Of Your Life has lots of tips. Do join activities where you’ll make friends with people who share your interests, like choirs or sports clubs.

The best romances begin as friendships.