Every time we go on holiday my husband ogles other women on the beach
DEAR DEIDRE: EVERY time we go on holiday together, my husband can’t help himself from ogling other women in front of me on the beach.
I’ve tried my hardest to ignore it but seeing the way he looks at their bodies has done a number on my self-esteem.
I am 52, he’s 57 and we’ve been together for 22 years.
We’ve always had a happy marriage but in recent years our sex life has died off and we’ve become disconnected.
It wasn’t until we went to Greece last year that I noticed he’d developed a wandering eye.
Watching the way he looked at these younger women made me feel so low. They were everything I wasn’t - skinny, youthful and toned.
I’d managed to push it to the back of my mind until this summer when he was even more blatant - openly staring at any pretty or younger woman.
He made me feel completely invisible.
Now my confidence has hit an all-time low.
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DEIDRE SAYS: Your husband's behaviour is disrespectful and hurtful, so it’s no wonder that it’s starting to affect your confidence and self-esteem.
You need to talk to him and tell him how this is making you feel. While it’s no excuse, it’s likely the disconnect between you contributing to his behaviour.
It would be beneficial for you to discuss what you can both do to improve your relationship and in turn your sex life. My support pack Saving Your Sex Life will help you work it out.
