WEIGHTY ISSUE
I find my fiancée repulsive since she piled on the pounds
She keeps asking when we’re going to marry, but I don’t want to
DEAR DEIDRE: SINCE my fiancée piled on the pounds, I’ve stopped feeling attracted to her. In fact, I find her repulsive.
Our lack of sex isn’t helped by the fact she snores like a foghorn.
We’re both 48 and have been together for five years, engaged for three.
But she’s gone from a size 12 to an 18.
I know it’s not politically correct but I don’t fancy larger ladies.
Her snoring keeps me awake and makes me grumpy, and I don’t even want to sleep in the same room.
She keeps asking when we’re going to marry, but I don’t want to. She’s not the woman I fell for.
What should I do?
MORE FROM DEAR DEIDRE
DEIDRE SAYS: You can’t help your feelings, and she may sense them. But if you love her, you must talk.
That doesn’t mean criticising – instead, just gently persuading her to seek help.
Snoring can be a symptom of a health problem, so it’s important she sees a doctor.
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