DEAR DEIDRE
My mate’s birthday got totally out of hand and I ended up in bed with his mum
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DEAR DEIDRE: MY mate’s ‘quiet get together’ for his 21st, got totally out of hand and I ended up in bed with his mum.
I’m 22 and I’d never met his family before because he doesn’t live near me. We are students.
He’d gone home for the holidays and his birthday was in the summer. His Mum had him at 17 - she’s only 37.
He doesn’t know his dad but has a stepdad who works abroad. His mum is fit and she made me feel so welcome.
His schoolmates and family were lovely and the party got busier as more and more people arrived.
Their garage housed the bar with lights and decks and I was in charge of the music. His mum kept me topped up with beer.
She looked amazing in her body-con leather dress with her dark hair cascading down her back.
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I went to the loo and when I came out onto the landing, she was standing there.
She’d had a few glasses of wine and she stumbled.
I caught her elbow and then we kissed.
Next everything happened so quickly - she pulled me into her bedroom and we had sex there and then.
I’d never been with anyone as old as her before but she had no inhibitions.
Thank goodness nobody caught us.
Now we are back at uni and our mates are organising nights out and going on the pull.
But I keep swerving it all and come up with excuses so that I can slip away and catch a train to my mate’s town to see his mum.
I’m starting to have feelings for her but I’m not sure how long it can go on for.
I feel as if I’m in a dream world.
MORE FROM DEAR DEIDRE
DEIDRE SAYS: Your feelings for her are real but this is pure lust which is not sustainable.
If you’re rumbled, you’ll completely spoil your friendship, the relationship your friend has with his mum and possibly become a marriage wrecker. Do you want this on your conscience?
The age-gap is big enough for you to be at different life stages. You could have an exciting future ahead without your lover complicating your life.
End things now before it gets really messy.
Your friend’s mum is using you as a distraction while her husband is working away and there is no future in this.
My support pack called Love Or Lust may help you to put your feelings into perspective.
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