My new wife fleeced me after discovering my cache of sexy online chats

DEAR DEIDRE: JUST two weeks after we got married, my wife dumped me.

To really rub it in, she's fleeced me after discovering my cache of sexy conversations I'd been having with different women on dating sites.

She’s left me with all the bills and the mortgage to pay, but I’ve also discovered that she has been fleecing me for months in revenge for a stupid mistake. 

She’s drained our joint bank account - I am devastated.

I’m 34 and she’s 32. We were together for five years before we got married.

Although I loved her, things weren’t brilliant leading up to the wedding.

She worked long hours and had a busy social life, which meant I was often alone. 

I tried to talk to her about it, but she couldn’t see the problem.

That’s when I messed up. Lonely, I started talking to women on dating sites. 

I had no intention of having sex with them, I wanted friendship. Some of them sent sexy pics, but I didn’t reciprocate.

Of course, she found out. I begged her to forgive me, and eventually, she said she had.

But she was just biding her time, once she’d taken me down the aisle and had a nice honeymoon.

Before we even had the wedding photos back, she texted me from work to say our marriage was over.

I got home to discover she’d collected her possessions and had seen a solicitor about an annulment.

Nothing could change her mind. 

When I checked our joint bank account, it was virtually empty. From the day she found out about my mistake, she’d been syphoning off small amounts of cash, so I wouldn’t notice.

Thousands in total.

I know I was stupid to message other women. But what she's done is far worse. 

I’m heartbroken - and skint.

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DEIDRE SAYS: You’re understandably devastated by your wife’s cold and cruel actions. 

She should have been honest and called off the wedding, instead of secretly taking financial revenge - which might be illegal.

Please take legal advice. Contact your local Citizen’s Advice ().

It’s also important you sort out your finances before you get into arrears.

My support pack, Solving Debt Problems, should be useful.

As for your heartbreak, it sounds like your wife has made up her mind.

Even if you could change it, would you really want her back after what she’s done? 

Confide in a friend or loved one, and consider counselling. See my support pack, Mend Your Broken Heart.