My husband’s affair was devastating, but my daughter won’t forgive him even though we are stronger than ever

DEAR DEIDRE: My husband’s affair was devastating, but we have both worked hard to fix our marriage and I feel we are stronger than ever.

Looking back I was spending all my free time with my elderly parents and neglected my marriage.

The only problem is that while our son has also forgiven him, my daughter won’t.

She is making things really difficult and has moved into her boyfriend’s house – she’s only 19.

I’m 55, my husband is 56 and our son is 21.

When I discovered the affair one year ago, I admit I was so upset and didn’t know how to function.

I couldn’t get out of bed, was hardly eating and didn’t even go into work for a few days.

It was my daughter who looked after me, bringing me cups of tea and snuggling up with me to watch old movies together.

Now she can’t understand how I could let him back into my life.

How can I get through to her?

While I’m so pleased we are working things through, I don’t want to do it at the expense of my family.

She refused to come away for a summer holiday with us and only comes home when she knows my husband is out.

I’m really missing my daughter.

DEIDRE SAYS: Some people see life very simply – in black or white.