DEAR DEIDRE
I hooked up again with my first love and he’s amazing in bed – now his wife is furious
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DEAR DEIDRE: MY first love has learned some incredible tricks in the bedroom since we last had sex nearly 20 years ago.
He knows how to give me the biggest orgasms and my whole body yearns for him when we aren’t together.
But we’ve only met three times in the last few months . . . and now his wife has discovered our fling.
I’m nervous that not only will she tell my husband, but that I’ll never see or have sex with my lover again.
I’m 37 and he’s 38. We dated as teenagers but drifted apart in our early 20s.
I moved away for work and met and married a lovely man, but even so my first love was never far from my thoughts.
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My ex played the field but didn’t settle for years.
Eventually he met his wife who is six years older than him but I know he isn’t happy.
He has told his friends she only wants him to pay the bills and do the chores, and I reconnected with him through Instagram last year.
Three months ago, we decided to meet, for old time’s sake. We had a great day at a country park and ended up in bed at his hotel.
It was all so perfect and I didn’t want to leave. He lives 300 miles away so it hasn’t been easy to see each other.
Now his wife has discovered a text from me, I’m not sure if I’ll see him ever again.
My ex confessed and told his wife he had slept with me.
She went ballistic and sent me text after text demanding to know all the details.
I am not proud of what happened but I don’t think I should be blamed for everything.
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DEIDRE SAYS: His wife is angry that her husband cheated and there is nothing you can do to appease her.
She’s lashing out because it feels less threatening to direct her anger at you.
Nobody forgets their first love because it’s a uniquely intense relationship but you have both moved on and have established new lives.
Your husband would never think the same of you again if he discovered your affair.
He might walk away and it’s unlikely your ex is going to leave his wife to be with you.
This affair was about escapism.
Work at reviving your relationship with the “lovely man” who is your husband.
My support pack Your Relationship MOT can help.
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