I’m at a loss for how to support my girlfriend since she had miscarriage
DEAR DEIDRE: MY girlfriend has become a shell of herself since having a miscarriage.
No matter what I do or say, she’s intent on shutting me out, and I’m at a loss for how to support her.
I’m 32, she’s 28, and we’ve been together for two and a half years.
I had no clue she was even pregnant until she rang me crying in the hospital after suffering the miscarriage.
Since then she’s taken it really hard and has gone completely off the rails.
Every time I’ve tried to comfort her, she avoids the conversation and acts like nothing has happened.
Whether she’s disappearing for days on end, or drinking in bars until the early hours, she’s turned into a different person.
All I want is to be there for her, but she won’t let me.
I’m so worried about her. Please help.
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DEIDRE SAYS: Losing a pregnancy is always sad and can leave a lot of lasting trauma. Not just the loss of a baby, but also an imagined future.
It’s clear your girlfriend is struggling to navigate her feelings and is shutting you out as a result.
The best thing you can do is tell her that you’re there for her and will be there to support her when she’s ready.
My Miscarriage support pack will help you both find some emotional comfort.
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