I’m blindsided over my hatred for my situationship’s new boyfriend

DEAR DEIDRE: AFTER years of mixed messages and empty promises, the girl of my dreams chose another man over me.

Now I feel so blindsided over my hatred for him that it’s driving me insane. 

I’m 28, she’s 27, and we first met two years ago when a mutual friend introduced us at a house party. 

It’s safe to say that I was besotted with her from the get-go, and she knew it. 

I tried my hardest to charm her, but what I thought could blossom into a happy relationship quickly turned into a heart-wrenching situationship.

While we shared an intense and special connection, she always had excuses for why she could never give me more.

Whether she was telling me it wasn’t 'the right time' or that she was ‘too busy’ for a commitment, she played me like a fiddle.

We’d go periods of no contact, and the second I felt like I was moving on, she would hit me with a ‘I miss you' text only to ghost me again a week later.

I think I always deluded myself into thinking that one day she’d finally wake up and we’d be together, but that all came crashing down when a photo of her and her new boyfriend popped up on my Instagram feed.

The rage that took over me was indescribable, and I haven’t been able to shake it since. 

Now I can’t stop obsessing over this new man, and the idea of him with her is sending me into a spiral. I keep fantasising about slashing his tyres.

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DEIDRE SAYS: It can be heartbreaking watching someone we have feelings for find happiness with someone else. 

However, it’s clear this woman wasn’t entirely honest with you, and you always questioned where you stood with her.

Instead of directing your anger towards her new partner, try to focus on the fact you’re free of the toxic cycle. And please steer clear of causing criminal damage.

I’m sending you my support pack, Moving On, to help.