I’m so pleased with your advice regarding my young lover – it changed everything
DEAR DEIDRE: I WROTE to you about my same-sex relationship with my young lover because I was concerned about the age gap and that she wanted to move in with me.
You advised me to take things slowly and not to allow her to move in until our relationship was better established.
We had known each other for six months and both work in a bar. I am 48 and she is 23.
After a party in the bar one evening, she gave me a kiss on the lips.
Within two weeks, we were dating and she asked whether she could live with me.
I didn’t know how to say no, but you gave me tips on being assertive.
You suggested that I ask her to meet her parents.
When I did, they were lovely to me and reassured her that she should stay over with me instead of moving in.
That took the pressure off. I still have my own space so it suits me fine.
You also warned me about our differences in life stages but I’m prepared to tackle those issues when they arise.
At the moment we are both happy.
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DEIDRE SAYS: Age gaps can be an issue for some couples but as long as you are clear about what it is you are looking for, there’s no reason why such relationships can’t work out.
The support pack I asked you to read, called Age Gaps – Do They Matter? will have explained more, and I do hope that things work out for you both.
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