All I want is to experience an orgasm but I’m beginning to think it’s a myth

DEAR DEIDRE: I’D love to experience an orgasm but I’m beginning to think it’s a myth. It’s never happened to me.

I’m a woman of 24 and I’ve had lots of different partners. Some one-night stands and some longer-lasting relationships.

I’ve tried lots of different positions. I like kissing and cuddling - that turns me on. But when it comes to actually doing it, sexual intercourse gives me no thrill at all.

I’m beginning to think I’m a lost cause and no man will want me. Some partners have even broken up with me because of this. 

I don’t know what to do now. All my friends talk about their “amazing sex life” and I feel left out.

Can you help or will I end up not wanting sex in any relationship?

DEIDRE SAYS: Most women get pleasure not from sex itself but through stimulation of those erogenous zones and particularly the clitoris which is the most sensitive of areas.

You can explore more by touching yourself, using lubrication if you prefer, to learn how best you’d like to be touched.

Don’t rush into having sex with the next guy who you’re attracted to. If he wants a long-term relationship, you can take your time.

The best sex comes from a committed relationship, where you can feel confident enough to tell your partner what feels good with more pressure, less pressure, faster or slower.

My support pack called Understanding Female Pleasure will help you and your next sexual partner.

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