I’ve met a great guy but he keeps his sexuality under wraps
DEAR DEIDRE: I’M a gay guy dating somebody from the travelling community. I love him but I can’t see it lasting.
We met online. I’m a 20-year-old art student and he works in the family business of buying and selling used cars. He’s a lovely guy but his family are really intimidating.
They don’t agree with same-sex relationships so he has to keep his sexuality completely under wraps.
His dad is a mountain of a man who my boyfriend says is handy with his fists.
My boyfriend is 25 and he says he wants things to work but he loves his family.
He said to me last night that if his family knew, he’d be rejected and would lose his job. The repercussions may mean he could get physically hurt too.
Is there any hope for us?
DEIDRE SAYS: He’s stuck between having a relationship and facing the prejudice of his family. Whether he comes out with you or somebody else, it’s not going to be easy for him.
To save you more hurt, tell him that you can’t commit fully to him until he decides where his future lies.
Has he got a plan of being true to himself and rejecting his family or will he tow the line and never divulge his sexuality?
You can both find support through LGBT (, Tel: 0345 3 30 30 30), a charity which offers help for those in the lesbian, gay, bisexual and trans community.
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