I have an amazing girlfriend but I can’t stop sleeping with escorts
DEAR DEIDRE: I’M in a happy relationship with an amazing woman, but I can’t stop sleeping with escorts.
I’m so sexually unfulfilled, I’m finding it hard to resist this temptation.
I’m 40, my girlfriend is 35, and we’ve been together for three years.
Meeting her was the best thing that’s happened to me, and I want to spend the rest of my life with her. However, over the last year our sex life has completely dropped off.
She’s been struggling a lot with chronic pain from endometriosis, so the last thing I’ve wanted is to pressure her.
In a moment of weakness, I decided to book an escort. I knew it was wrong, but I got caught up in the moment.
Feeling that close to someone again was intoxicating, and I’ve been addicted ever since.
I try to resist but always find myself going back.
I’m risking everything, and the last thing I want is to lose my girlfriend. Please help.
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DEIDRE SAYS: You say you don’t want to lose your girlfriend but that is exactly what you are doing - and all for a quick sexual fix.
While escorts may relieve your frustration in the short term, in the long term, it’s only going to lead to more problems.
It’s understandable that you miss intimacy, but this is something you need to work through with your partner.
Talk to her about how the lack of sex is affecting you.
Sex doesn’t always have to revolve around penetration, so explore other ways of sharing intimacy instead. Get creative and you can still both enjoy intimacy.
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