I don’t know how to cope since my ex finished with me for good

DEAR DEIDRE: AFTER years of fighting to make our relationship work, my ex has finished with me, and I don’t know how to cope.

I’ve tried everything to help me move on and get over this, but I wake up every day with constant dread.

I’m 29, he’s 30, and we were together on and off for just over five years. 

It’s safe to say that communication was never one of our strong suits. Even from the beginning he would run away from conflict and deflect from any of our issues.

I always felt deep down that he had one foot out of the door, but I loved him so much that I convinced myself we could make it work. 

While we had our fair share of explosive arguments, he’d always come crawling back and confess his love for me. He’d often talk about the future and how he couldn’t live without me.

Yet now he’s left for good, and I don’t know how to move on. I know it’s for the best, but I’m breaking my heart.

DEIDRE SAYS: Grieving the end of a long relationship can be devastating, especially if you thought you had a future together.

As hard as it may feel right now, remember that moving on and healing from this will take time.

Allow yourself the space to mourn the relationship and allow yourself to feel your emotions. 

Talking to those closest to you about how you’re feeling will help too.

My support packs, Mending a Broken Heart and Moving On, will help you pick up the pieces.

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