My girl’s wild step-sister seduced me for sex in hotel toilets and I’m disgusted with myself
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DEAR DEIDRE: I HAD sex in a hotel toilet with my girlfriend’s stepsister and I feel disgusted with myself.
I’ve been with my girlfriend for more than a year.
I work for a software company and we had a guy over from France who was working with me for a couple of weeks.
He was staying at a hotel in town and on the Friday night he offered to buy me and my girlfriend some drinks in the bar.
My girlfriend said her stepsister had texted her to say she was at a loose end and asking if she could make it a foursome.
My girlfriend’s dad got together with her stepsister’s mum and they get on all right, but her stepsister is a bit wild.
She once tried it on with the groom at a family wedding.
But we met up anyway, and my colleague and my girlfriend’s stepsister seemed to be getting on great.
My girlfriend and I are 28 and her stepsister is 26.
I went outside for a cigarette while my colleague ordered some more drinks.
My girlfriend’s stepsister came outside for a cigarette too and we had a chat.
She asked if I was having a good time.
I said I was, and she said: “I wish I could meet a guy like you.”
I was a bit shocked and laughed and said I needed the loo, which was back inside, in the lobby.
When I came out, she was sitting there on a large curvy sofa and said: “Can we have a chat?”
I went over and she made me sit down, then passionately kissed me.
She took control and kept kissing me and I have to admit I enjoyed it.
She then grabbed my hand and led me into the disabled loo.
She locked the door behind us and undid my trousers.
We had sex — it literally lasted seconds.
I can’t believe I did it.
I have never cheated on anyone like that before.
We then walked back to our table as if nothing had happened.
Today she texted me, saying: “If you want a repeat performance call me any time.”
I think I should tell my girlfriend.
I feel so bad about it all.
DEIDRE SAYS: You’ve good reason to feel guilty for cheating on your girlfriend but confessing to her will just pass all the bad feeling on to her and achieve nothing.
Yes, you were wrong to cheat, but we all do things we regret sometimes.
Best keep it to yourself.
What matters is to learn from that night.
Tell this stepsister you have too much at stake for this ever to get out and your sex session was a one-off.
Impress upon her that the family fall-out would be massive if she ever spilt the beans.
Tell her she’s wasting her time with guys who aren’t available and she should find somebody who is free for a special long-term relationship.
What’s gone wrong with your relationship to make this betrayal possible?
Was it just that sex was handed to you on a plate?
Or have you and your girlfriend lost a bit of your mojo?
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