I’m hooked on webcam sex and have spent thousands of pounds — but now I’ve ended up addicted and alone

This will also give you the encouragement to realise you are actually doing something to make your life better.

The other aspect of your problem you must tackle is the lack of contact with real people.

You need to be busy and interested in what is going on in the outside world so you don’t resort to webcamming to fill the loneliness.

When you start meeting people face to face and building friendships with them, you will be well on your way to finding that special person to plan a future with.

My e-leaflet How To Find The Love Of Your Life has suggestions to get you on the right track.

Partner's kids are too much

Dear Deidre

MY partner’s children run rings round him.

If they say “jump”, he asks how high.

We have been together for more than a year and our relationship is really good.

I have a daughter but she is grown up and no bother.

I am 49, my partner is 50 and his kids are 15 and 12.

If we are out somewhere and they text him, we have to hurry home so he can do their bidding.

This might just be to get something from the local shop or ferry one of them to a friend’s house.

DEIDRE SAYS:  Probably he feels guilty about not being at home with his kids.

They resent his living away so try to behave as though he isn’t.

Also, remember these children are hurting.

That said, it’s not good for them to be calling the shots like this.

Ask your partner to enforce some sensible boundaries – for instance, they wait until your trip is finished before he goes.

He keeps me from his mum

Dear Deidre

I HAVE never met my boyfriend’s mother and this makes me feel very excluded from his life, as though he must be ashamed of me.

We have been together for three years.