Adoptive mum dropped a huge bombshell that was really hard to hear… what do I do?
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Dear Deidre
MY adoptive mother tells me she wishes she’d chosen another baby instead of me. It really hurts my feelings.
I’ve always felt I’m a disappointment. I’m a 23-year-old woman and I trained as a nursery nurse but Mum wanted me to be a doctor.
Up until earlier this year, I was working in a children’s nursery but my boss was a bully and I could take no more so I left and decided to find something new.
It’s not been that simple, though. I now think I’d like to retrain as a teacher.
My mum says I’m lazy and useless. She constantly asks for rent money which I don’t have.
She says horrible things about how she gave me a loving home and this is how I repay her.
She reckons I’m hopeless. It makes me cry. I just wish I could go somewhere else and not come back.
DEIDRE SAYS: I don’t know what your mum is taking out on you but it is not your fault.
Find emotional support at . Their TalkAdoption helpline helps under 25s (0808 808 1234).
Also see for details of the bursaries available to help you achieve your teaching ambition.
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