My wife says she never wants sex again and I’m considering using an escort

Dear Deidre MY wife says she loves me but is no longer “in love” with me or interested in sex.

I love her and miss the physical side of our marriage.

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She says she is happy to live without it.

I think this is really sad. I am 46 and my wife is 47.

Our kids are independent so this should be our time.

We are financially secure and have great holidays.

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I thought of going to an escort to fulfil my needs but can’t bring myself to do that because I still love her.

We have talked about the possibility of splitting up but she will find it hard as she does not work.

DEIDRE SAYS It could be linked to the menopause affecting her.

But it could also be you never really discovered what would make sex as pleasurable and satisfying as possible for her.

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She either didn’t know herself or didn’t like to say.

Tell her that you love her and understand she can’t imagine wanting sex again, but it is likely to lead to problems between you and break you up.

Ask her to see a Relate sex therapist with you (, 0300 100 1234).

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