I’m in a lesbian relationship but can’t stop sleeping with my girlfriend’s dad
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DEAR DEIDRE: I’VE been in a relationship with my lesbian lover for more than a year but I can’t help cheating on her with her dad.
I always felt I was gay and I had never had sex with a man before. I am 21 and met my girlfriend at work. We fell for each other instantly and quickly started a relationship.
We love each other deeply and, six months ago, she asked me to move in with her. She is 25 and has her own flat. Her parents and mine accepted our relationship and things could not have been better.
Her sister got married last month and I was invited as my girlfriend’s partner. The wedding was beautiful. They had a big reception and a disco at a hotel.
The bar was free and everyone kept drinking all through the afternoon and into the evening. My girlfriend got very drunk and fell asleep in an armchair.
I asked her dad to help me get her upstairs to our room discreetly. After we got her into bed he said we should go down and have one more drink to round off the evening.
People were still drinking and dancing. My girlfriend’s mum was sitting in a corner, chatting with other relatives and nobody noticed when we took our drinks into the garden. We sat and talked.
My girlfriend’s dad is 48 and still very good-looking. He said he had always found me attractive and he kissed me. I was taken aback but I responded. The next thing I knew, we were having sex in a hidden corner of the garden. It was fantastic. I never thought sex with a man could be so good.
Afterwards, he said I was amazing and he would be up for it any time I wanted. I said no at the time but I couldn’t stop thinking about him.
We have texted each other since and met for sex a few times. I feel guilty but I don’t want to stop because sex with him is so good.I am really confused. Does that mean I am not a lesbian or should I stop seeing him?
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DEIDRE SAYS: This has raised a big question mark for you but you must stop having sex with your girlfriend’s dad. It’s much too likely you will get found out and it will totally devastate the family, never mind your relationship with your girlfriend.
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