My wife is going through the menopause and it is seriously affecting our sex life

DEAR DEIDRE: MY wife of 24 years says sex used to be great but it has now changed for her.

We are in our late forties, so could this be the menopause?

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I don’t want our love life to fizzle out and have suggested using sex toys but she does not think much of foreplay.

I know this sounds like the typical thing a man says but I want to spice things up.

I really love her and would like foreplay to be more fun for us both.

DEIDRE SAYS: Women’s sexual responses do change with the menopause but in very individual ways.

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Suggest she has a check-up with her GP and tries a vaginal moisturiser such as Replens ().

My e-leaflet Love And The Mature Woman explains more, but part of the problem could be that she hasn’t been keen on foreplay.

Getting aroused – and so naturally lubricated – before intercourse should make it more pleasurable.

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