My wife is going through the menopause and it is seriously affecting our sex life
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DEAR DEIDRE: MY wife of 24 years says sex used to be great but it has now changed for her.
We are in our late forties, so could this be the menopause?
I don’t want our love life to fizzle out and have suggested using sex toys but she does not think much of foreplay.
I know this sounds like the typical thing a man says but I want to spice things up.
I really love her and would like foreplay to be more fun for us both.
DEIDRE SAYS: Women’s sexual responses do change with the menopause but in very individual ways.
Suggest she has a check-up with her GP and tries a vaginal moisturiser such as Replens ().
My e-leaflet Love And The Mature Woman explains more, but part of the problem could be that she hasn’t been keen on foreplay.
Getting aroused – and so naturally lubricated – before intercourse should make it more pleasurable.
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