I lied to my grown-up daughter about a secret fling I had years ago and now I’m worried she’ll discover the truth

DEAR DEIDRE: YEARS ago, I had a stupid fling, which I’ve moved on from.

But now it has come back to haunt me.

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My first marriage was very unhappy. My husband was cold and didn’t want to know when we had our daughter.

We broke up when I was 24 and my ex hardly ever saw our girl afterwards. I am 49 now and settled. My daughter is 27.

She recently told me that she’d met a neighbour who knew me 30 years ago during my first marriage.

The woman said that I’d had a fling with her brother and my then husband had a fight with him.

It’s true, but I denied it and my daughter seemed to accept this. I am worried though.

My girl now sees her father occasionally. If she asks him about it, the truth will come out.

I can continue to deny it but it is like a timebomb waiting to explode.

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DEIDRE SAYS: You can’t change the mistake you made, but don’t make another one now and damage your relationship with your daughter.

Tell her the truth.

She may well forgive a mistake you made 30 years ago during an unhappy marriage but not lying to her now.

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