Polyamorous throuple who live together with their three kids plan to marry and have more children… but say they’re still ‘open’ to dating others
A POLYAMOROUS throuple who have three children plan to get married, open a B&B and have three more kids together.
Cody and Kayla Kurkowski, from Ohio, were childhood sweethearts and got married in 2016.
Before tying the knot Cody, 28, Kayla, 27, welcomed Cole, five, in 2014, and two years later Kyson, three, came along.
Soon after the birth of their second child, Kayla, a dance teacher, met call centre worker, Katherine Zepernick, on Facebook and they hit it off.
As the pair grew close, Cody, a technician, got to know Katherine, 27, and their relationship blossomed.
The Kurkowski’s officially asked Katherine to be their girlfriend in 2017, saying it was “love at first sight” for them all.
And three months after becoming exclusive, the trio moved in together and began living as an official throuple.
Katherine said: “There was a special feeling we got that we knew meant there was something special between us.”
But while they’re in a committed relationship with each other, they’re all free to date other people as well, which they can an ‘open triad’.
Katherine said: “To us, polyamory gives you the ability to construct the relationship structure that really works for you.
“A triad formation is what is working for us right now. We are an open triad, which means we can date separately, dyadically, or as a triad.
“There have been bumps and learning curves in the road just like any relationship, but we’ve always done everything we can to make our family work.”
They began raising their two kids as co-parents, but in 2019 they welcomed their third child, Khloe-Rae – the first for them as a throuple.
Katherine said: “Two years into our relationship, we decided it was time for another baby and Khloe Rae was conceived in June.
“We got engaged in January on our second-year anniversary, and Khloe-Rae was born in February immediately after.”
Cementing their union, Cody and Kayla proposed to Katherine in January this year – just before Khloe-Rae was born – and they plan on getting married in 2022.
Cody and Kayla wrote to Katherine’s parents asking for their blessing for the marriage, and after buying a ring they set up a proposal with candles, flowers and balloons for when she got home.
Katherine said: “We had our song playing outside as I walked up. Afterwards we had a small party at our house to celebrate with some of our close friends and family.
“They got me a ring a couple of months beforehand to make sure it was the right size and then planned to propose the night before our third anniversary of when they asked me to be their girlfriend.”
Khloe-Rae is now eight-months-old, and the trio say they’re already planning on having three more kids.
The throuple dream of opening a B&M in their home town, and say they’re “just like any other family”.
Katherine said: “We plan to have two to three more children in the future and hope to open a bed and breakfast in Colorado one day.
“We all parent equally; no person has more parenting authority than another, and we all make decisions about them together.
“We have explained our relationship to them already; we tell them it’s just like any other family. All their parents love them, and that every family is different.”
Despite their open outlook, Katherine said they receive negative reactions from people.
She said: “We know that polyamory isn’t for everybody, but we do think that more people should know it is an option if you feel like it’s right for you.
“It isn’t just a sexual thing either. That’s one of the first questions we get.
“We get a lot of confused looks from strangers, but people usually keep to themselves with their opinions for the most part.
“We’ve received some negative reactions on Instagram and some people assume I am Cody’s sister and that I just live with them.
“We just want to be able to let people know that polyamory isn’t a threat to monogamy, which is something we’ve run into a lot just being out with our relationship.
“We are all feminists and are bringing our children up to be inclusive and open people and we’re very proud of that.”
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