Banned from seeing lover? Use our guide to saucy Zoom sessions and sex toys
COUPLES divided by the lockdown have been starved of sex.
There may be no relief in sight, either, as the Government has ruled you cannot sleep with someone you don’t live with.
So it is time to get a bit experimental with long-distance passion.
Here, sexpert Kate Taylor suggests ways to get close while still being apart.
Build the suspense
AS the easing of lockdown means you can finally see your significant other outside, it’s time to build the tension – and not give in to temptation.
Fill your social calendar with as many hands-free dates as you can.
Try picnics, tennis, cycling, dog- walking, grabbing a drive-through burger in separate cars and parking next to each other to eat it.
The more fun ways you spend time almost together now, the better you’ll feel emotionally – and the easier and more natural it will be to reconnect physically. When you get back to your separate homes, turn up the sex appeal and really let your connection build.
Get to know their sex talk
A HANDS-free phone gives you the perfect opportunity to have hands-free thrills. If asked what you are wearing, don’t confess to rocking those pizza-stained leggings again. Be vague, let your partner conjure up their own vision.
Phone sex is best when you do not get too detailed. It is possible you will be imagining frolicking on a beach while your partner is fantasising about a shuffle in the shed. So only talk about the sex itself. Describe how it feels when your partner touches you, how their voice is driving you wild.
If you get the giggles, it indicates you are self-conscious. Get past that by focusing on your partner’s voice. When passion rises, your nerves will fade away.
Listen to the words your partner uses for body parts and sex acts and use those same words yourself. That is your partner’s sex language and the words act like a trigger to push them over the edge.
Tease with a knickergram
IF it is a new relationship, or you are introducing socially distanced dirtiness to it, start low-key. Just a text saying “I can’t wait to hold you again” is enough to whet their appetite.
Work up to hotter ideas, like recording voice memos of you reading out your favourite piece of erotica – try anything by EL James, or search online for female fantasies – and send them over late at night. Watch a steamy box set together and be honest about the scenes that turn you on.
Try Normal People on BBC iPlayer, which has 44 minutes of sex scenes. Create and share sexy playlists on Spotify, with your favourite bump-and-grind tunes.
If you need inspiration, try Spotify playlist Best Sexy Songs To Have Sex To – which lasts an optimistic seven hours. When feeling confident, agree to buy each other new underwear online, have it delivered to each other’s houses, and text each other photos of you wearing it.
’appy ending
THERE are so many sexy phone apps available you might be disappointed when lockdown is finally fully lifted.
To get you in the mood for a naughty video chat, try Tingles (iOS and Android, free) which plays ASMR (autonomous sensory meridian response) sounds designed to get your brain in the mood.
Or actually get In The Mood (iOS, free; coming soon to Android) – a fun, playful app for couples to exchange messages, photos and naughty suggestions. Desire (iOS and Android, free) lets you and your partner send each other sexy “dares” to complete.
As you work through these dares, you earn points to unlock sexy challenges. You can also send each other private messages and recordings.
Play to your strengths
YOU cannot meet for dinner at the moment, so use that money to send each other sexy pleasure toys instead.
Make his day by sending him a Tenga Egg (from £7.99; bondara.co.uk), discreet, hand-held toys designed to make you feel that you are right there with him.
Or invest in something from the pricey-but-worth-it We-Vibe range of gadgets (from £59.99, lovehoney.co.uk).
These artful inventions stimulate you inside and out, and feature a We Connect app (iOS and Android, free) that syncs with your toy so your partner can control your pleasure, even from thousands of miles away.
Zoom into your best bits
ONCE you have mastered the art of phone sex, move over to a video platform such as Skype, Zoom, Google Hangouts, Whereby or FaceTime.
Do not feel obliged to do anything too gynaecological or graphic. The great thing about these platforms is you can use them to tease and tantalise each other, and go only as far as you are comfortable with.
To start with, you could just share a candle-lit meal together like a normal date.
If you want to take things up a notch afterwards, move on to sexier stuff.
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Try a flirty striptease or only film your face and ask your partner to guess what you are doing to the rest of your body.
If they guess correctly, give them the briefest flash of the action.
Play a naughty version of truth or dare, with questions based on sex, or try strip poker, strip chess or strip snap.
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