Man admits he doesn’t fancy his wife anymore and suggests three ways to fix his marriage & it totally divides opinions
A MAN has shocked people on the internet by listing the 'three options' he has after confessing that he no longer fancies his wife.
The man posted anonymously on Mumsnet looking for advice and attracted hundreds of comments.
In the post, the man claimed to be asking for advice from women (hence taking his query to ).
He explained that his wife is complaining that he never pays her compliments, but that the truth of the matter was that he simply did not fancy her.
The man added: "I can think of a few options:
"I could tell her what she wants to hear, even if it's insincere.
"I could do what I'm doing now - be nice, but don't say things I don't mean.
"I could suggest divorce."
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The anonymous poster said he was currently doing option two, being nice to his wife but not telling her he fancies her as he doesn't want to say things that are not true.
He added: "I struggle to say nice things I don't really believe."
After the post received a lot of comments, the man gave users some additional information and said he had fancied his wife but was no longer attracted to her.
He also claimed: ";The brutal truth is that if it were not for the children (5 & 8) we would have broken up long ago."
He wanted suggestions from women on which of the three approaches to take in the future.
While it's common for long-term relationships to lose the spark over time, his three options raised division in the comment section of the forum.
Many users suggested he should divorce her if there was no way to fix it, one user wrote: "If you honestly feel like that and can't see a way back then do the decent thing and tell her and leave, although it might break her heart in the long term she is free to find someone who will fancy her for the person she is."
"Divorce. This will erode her." Replied another person.
Others suggested the man have an honest conversation with his wife before making any rash decisions, one commented; "Presumably you fancied her at some point to marry her? Poor girl. I'd be honest and tell her how you feel. Do you love her?"
Another user said: "You could compliment her personality, her acts of selflessness that benefit you. Her mothering skills if you have kids."
A third person wrote: "Just because you don't "fancy" her doesn't mean you can't compliment her on a job well done, on a nice outfit, affirm her, etc."
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