I regret my baby’s name – my partner & I couldn’t agree and everyone pronounces it wrong
GIVING YOUR child their name is a big decision, one that puts a lot of pressure on parents.
You want to give your child a name that you will love and one that they will be proud of.
Many parents will have baby name ideas in mind, but if they don’t, many may turn to baby name books for ideas.
But one mum has taken to to reveal that she felt pressured to choose a name for her daughter and now has ‘baby name regret’.
The mum explained that her and partner couldn’t agree on a name and still hadn’t decided on their daughter's name by the time she was six weeks old.
As a result, they went with the one name they could agree on, but now the mum reveals that she isn’t a fan of the name they chose.
Not only does she not like the name, but she’s fed up with people pronouncing it wrong.
The mum explained: “I had hyperemesis and PND and as a result, coupled with the fact the partner didn't agree with me on many names I still didn't have a name for her when she was almost 6 weeks old.
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“The only one we could agree on was Esmé (Es-may) so reluctantly went for that.
“Now I really don't like it.
“She's forever getting Es-me and the accent is a pain.
“It's too late to change it isn't it? She's 4 months old.
“Anyone else have name regret and did it grow on you?”
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Mumsnet users were very supportive of the new mum and took to the comments to share their advice.
One person said: “I had a very similar experience with my now 4 year old. We hadn’t settled on a name for her although I did have one that I kept coming back to.
"To cut a very long story short I felt pressured to register her birth at 3 weeks and immediately felt a crushing regret about her name. I couldn’t say it, felt ill when I saw it written down and developed PND.
“We eventually chose a name and formally changed her name at 4 months. It’s very easy to do before 12 months. I would definitely change it if you want to and please don’t worry about what anyone else thinks.
“I completely tore myself to bits about it all but now 4 years later I’m so relieved we changed her name.”
Another added: “It doesnt matter how you spell it. Most people are told people’s name. They're just being rude if they pronounce it differently to how you've correctly said it. Correct the lazy f***ers every time.”
A third commented: “I changed my son's name when he was 6 months old. At birth, I wanted one name, my ex wanted another so we 'compromised' and came up with a third name. My son was 3 months old when I left my violent partner - it was a very difficult time.
“Whilst talking to a friend, I mentioned how I wished my son had the name I wanted - she said I should 'try the name on for size' so I started using 'my' name. It was obviously tricky remembering at first but I didn't look back and when he was 6 months old, I changed it legally.
“My son is now 23, he really likes his name and it suits him perfectly.”
Another suggested: “If you’re not sure what to change it to id just leave it for now. You only need to tell people once and they get the pronunciation right. Everyone who knows her will know her name.”
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