We’re sex experts – five easy ways to boost your bedroom antics today and there’s no dressing up involved
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The couple share their best advice on how to have a better sex life . . .
SAY GOODBYE TO SHAME
START with an exercise and write down what your parents told you about sex growing up.
A lot of shame can come from being told it is bad so it’s important to pinpoint where your fears came from.
Then write down the best and worst sexual experience you’ve ever had. What made them good or bad? Was it the sex itself or how it made you feel afterwards?
A little detective work goes a long way to understanding our emotions and our shame around sex.
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WORK OUT WHAT YOU REALLY WANT
WHY do you want to make love? How do you want to feel afterwards? Are there ways you could make yourself more present in the moment?
Your intention paves the direction for the sex.
Are you doing it to become more connected to your partner or do you want to unlock new pleasure zones?
Work out what kind of sex you want first before you jump into bed.
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TALK DIRTY
THIS might blow your mind but you’re allowed to talk during a romp.
There’s this idea that talking might make it less sexy. But that’s wrong.
You can speak up and it can be incredibly hot to do so. It doesn’t make you weird, it makes you authentic and confident.
Ask your partner what they want and don’t be afraid to say what you like and dislike.
Open up to each other about your deepest desires.
DON’T FOCUS ON THE BIG O
ARE you in a situation where your goal is to have an orgasm? Don’t fall into this trap because pleasure is a journey not a destination.
We want you to be in it for the whole experience and enjoy every touch, stroke, kiss . . .
You need to reframe what pleasure is and enjoy the moment, don’t focus on the end goal.
Contrary to common belief, great sex doesn’t have to end with an orgasm.
PLAN SEX IN ADVANCE
YOU don’t need to be “in the mood” to have sex. You can have sex when you’re grumpy, sad, annoyed, happy – it doesn’t matter.
If you want good sex you need to have it even when you don’t fancy it. Get organised and approach your lovemaking like every other social activity in your life.
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Plan sex, write it in your calendar and show up even when you’re not feeling it.
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You’ll maintain a great relationship with your partner and have a healthy, connected sex life.
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