I’m a child psychologist – what NOT to say to your children on their first day of school

THE day many parents have been dreading is fast approaching – the day their little ones start school.

The drop off is likely to be an exciting but emotional time, both for mums, dads and children, but there are some things you should actively avoid saying in order to make it easier for your offspring.

Caitlin took to her Mamapsychologists Instagram page to share her top tips on what you should say instead.

She began her video by revealing the things you shouldn’t say: “Oh I hope you’re going to be ok”, “Mummy doesn’t know what she’s going to do without you, I’m going to be so lonely” and “I don’t want to leave you. Maybe I’ll come in with you!”

Instead you should “place a kiss in their hand they can place over their heart when they’re missing you”.

In addition, you can highlight your “next point of connection” by saying something like, “Mummy will be back after your last snack”.

Parents were quick to comment on the Instagram Reel thanking Caitlin for her advice, with one writing: “Making them responsible for my emotions is like my biggest childhood trauma fear.

“Love this suggestion!!”

“Love these tips!” another added.

“Research definitely shows that children mirror their parents’ attitudes and behaviours during drop off!”

While a third commented: “Yesss! Beautiful advice! The separation might be scary and difficult for your child but showing them that it is difficult for you as well will make the separation even more difficult.

“It is important to calmly and confidently show your child that you love them and trust that they will be okay.

“And that you are not leaving forever: you will be back.”

“I always say to both of them ‘You are going to have so much fun. Remember to be kind and help when you can’. Then I go cry,” another mum wrote.