I was 36-weeks pregnant & found a mysterious note – I thought it was a love letter from my husband but I was so wrong
A WOMAN told how she found out her husband was cheating on her at 36 weeks pregnant, after she thought he'd sent her a sweet love letter - only to discover it was from his mistress.
Daniella Asher, 31, was expecting a baby with her husband who she had been with for three years, but found out just weeks before she was meant to give birth that he had been having an affair with a woman he had met on Tinder.
Heartbroken, Daniella decided to fly to her family in Sweden at 36 weeks so she could give birth with her family beside her instead of her husband, who at the time, was away travelling with the other woman.
Opening a letter that had been handwritten, Daniella thought it was from her husband while he was away, only to find out it was a love letter from her husbands mistress to him.
Leaving the letter on the bed she shared with her husband, she flew back to Sweden and has been there ever since, with her newborn son Brooklyn.
Daniella said: "Three weeks before I was meant to give birth I opened a letter that had come from the mistress.
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"I had found out that my loving husband had been having a several month long affair.
"He was in Amsterdam at the time and the letter had come from Amsterdam, I thought it was a love letter from him [to me].
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"I'm guessing she didn’t know it was going to come before he was home.
"When I got the letter, I had tried to call him so many times but there was an eight hour time difference between us and he was asleep.
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"I sent him a picture of the letter I said 'you are the biggest cliché'.
"He didn’t even try to call me as he was with her and didn't want to blow the cover.
"It took him three days to come home and we had barely spoken.
"By the time he had got back I was already on my way back to Sweden, he couldn’t believe I had left. I didn’t want to be home when he got home.
"I felt like I was in a movie. I was 36 weeks pregnant and I got in touch with my midwife and I begged for her to write me a safe to fly letter as I just wanted to be at home with my family. I was in full panic mode."
Once Daniella had arrived back home to Sweden from America, she was surrounded by the support of her family, but was also in contact with her husband, who was in disbelief she had left America.
She said: "He apologised so many times and he even said he wanted to work on us, the typical things that are said.
"I never thought I would forgive infidelity but I tried so hard to get the marriage back together as we had a baby now.
"We did couple's counselling and we had spoken a lot for a month.
"However, he had never stopped talking to her at the same time so he was lying to me.
"When I gave birth he was away travelling with her, it was all a lie.
"He asked if he could date both of us and I said definitely not.
"If he want to be with her he can, but he won't also be with me.
"My life is like a movie it was unbelievable. I think he might be having a midlife crisis.";
Struggling with her pregnancy, looking back Daniella can see why she felt lonely during her pregnancy, but she had trusted her husband and didn't ever question him going away.
She said: "It was a hard pregnancy. I had bad sickness and I was medicated through the whole nine months.
"Then on top of it all I was really lonely and I think because he was seeing someone else but I had such a beautiful birth as I had my mum by my side the whole time.
"He told me it had been three months that he had been seeing her, so I would have been six months pregnant when they met.
"He was always travelling, which I found suspicious but I didn’t question it.
"It was a very lonely pregnancy, he hates weakness, so I wasn’t allowed to show weakness and always had to stay strong.
"He did something bad but I won't let it define him as a person.
"I got in touch with the woman a week after I gave birth and told her he had a wife and a newborn baby, I'm not sure if she had a feeling he was with someone or if she was just clueless but she didn’t seem too surprised. They they are still together though and she also has kids.
"If this was me, I would have been so surprised so it was strange that she wasn't.
"I also think the way the letter was written was too much in your face, like she was trying to tell me she was with him.
"It was a typical love letter saying how happy she was to have met him, how much she loves him and also photos of them together.
"It's just low to me how a woman knowing the whole thing wold want to stick around still – he's ultimately cheated on her as well.
"My mum was heartbroken when I told her, it all starts off like a love story, it was magical and amazing.
"We got married quickly and had planned for a baby. My family all loved him as well, so no one could believe it.
"We met through a dating app when he was travelling through Sweden and it was love at first sight.
"I should have had a feeling, but I didn’t, I'm not a jealous person and I would let him travel.
"He would be gone for two weeks at a time and I would never suspected anything but he has a pattern. I knew he cheated before in previous relationships.
"He has five kids with three different mums, and I'm number three so I should have suspected something.
"I have been one one date recently, but it's so hard with a baby planning something.
"I'm a full time single mum, so when am I ever going to have time to even go for a coffee!
"I am a lot better now but of course some days are hard, like when Brooklyn is sick and I don't have that support there with someone saying it is going to be ok.
"Some days don’t feel good when you don’t have that family you planned for, but when you become a mum you're forced to be strong, I didn’t know I had this strength in me.
"It was really tough and I was really depressed postpartum, I didn’t know if I was going to survive the next day, I found out a week postpartum that he was still speaking to her so when found out it was like a heartbreak all over again.
"I am building a community through TikTok I wanted to share my story and reach out to women who have been in same situation and show them they will get through the deep hole they are in, my initial video about it got over 800K views.
"People have been reaching out to me from all over the world sharing their similar stories and thanking me for giving them hope and speaking up about the pain and depression - especially as a mother that is oftentimes very stigmatised to talk about.
Daniella's husband said: "I cheated and she found a handwritten note. That's true.
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"Cheating may be one aspect of a relationship. There’s also the majority of time where one person can be a great partner and treat the other wonderfully.
"So often people need to hold their judgement when they don’t have any idea about what the relationship was like."
