I gained 30lbs during pregnancy – my partner always comments on my weight so I hit him where it hurts, but regret it now
A NEW mom who was reeling from feeling ridiculed over her post-baby body hit back hard.
And now others are weighing in on the debacle that has left her feeling remorseful.
"We had a daughter last year and I’ve put on about 30 pounds. Now, even though I’ve gained weight, I don’t think I’m fat," said Reddit user ().
She admitted that while she might not be back to her pre-baby body, she didn't think that she deserved to be mistreated.
"My legs have just gotten thicker. Anyways, he keeps making comments saying that I haven’t stopped eating since I’ve gotten pregnant," she said.
She was fed up and finally had enough.
"Yesterday, I was preparing a bottle for our daughter when he said 'why don’t you move out the way, you don’t see you’re big’."
The mom who was no doubt suffering big time from the blues, explained how her partner tried to minimize his remark by claiming he was just talking about her butt.
Still, she said that the comment really hurt her feelings - so she did some damage of her own and hit back where it hurt.
She said: "At least a fat person can lose weight but your hair is never going to grow back."
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She also detailed how while her man is only 27, the front of his hair as well as the middle part have thinned out quite a bit, leaving him very self-conscious.
"He won’t leave the house without a hat and he’ll turn back around if he realizes that he forgot to take it with him," she said.
It seemed that she was now finding herself in a rather hairy situation.
"He’s been angry at me since I made the comment but I felt like if he keeps talking about my weight, then I can talk about his hairline. So AITA?" she asked other users.
After receiving a slew of hateful comments, she wanted to clarify that she had gained the majority of the weight during her pregnancy.
"You should probably diet and exercise more than you are if it's something that's important to you," was one reader's response to the situation.
The mom had only one thing to say to those who were questioning her ability to control her weight and telling her that she should go to the gym.
"Finding time to go to the gym is very different for a father than it is for a mother," she quipped back.
She was also regretting her remark.
"Yes I know two wrongs don’t make a right and when I calmed down, I realized I should have handled it in a better way," she explained.
And people had plenty to say about the ongoing feud.
"He can’t control his hairline. You can do something about your weight. No excuses. You’re an misandrist. He’s a jerk," one reader weighed in.
Others had additional questions.
"Has he always been negative about your appearance or is this something new? You have a young child, are you both sleep-deprived and snarly maybe?
"Whatever it is, you need to get to the bottom of it and stop snipping at each other. It's not fair to you or your daughter," said one curious user.
"No he hasn’t always been like this. Overall, he’s usually loving and not mean spirited.
"He just keeps making these little comments about my weight, even though he knows that I’m insecure about the weight gain and that I'm actively trying to lose it," she replied.
Additional users were emphatic towards the momma bear.
"The body that in nine months created a whole new person. That takes a lot of fuel and energy," said one concerned reader.
"Not to mention the fact that it can be very difficult to lose weight when breastfeeding without impacting supply," another user added.
Yet this viewer placed the blame on just one person here - her partner.
"At some point people need a taste of their own medicine. We all do at some point it’s how we learn," she said.
"You can only lose weight when you have the headspace. It has to be the right time for you," said yet another reader.
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According to the , how much weight a woman gains during her pregnancy is dependent upon her body mass index.
Those who are a normal weight should expect to gain about 25 to 30 pounds.
