What are the five sexual fantasies he’ll never tell you about? Dr Pam Spurr reveals all
MEN and women both have sexual fantasies and for many couples acting them out is their idea of a romantic night in.
But some people never reveal their deepest desires, and the top five fantasies men have but never share has been revealed.
Our sex and relationship columnist Dr Pam Spurr regularly brings you must-know info for the bedroom and beyond. Follow Dr Pam on Twitter .
Confidential fantasy confessions rarely surprise me. Because that’s the nature of fantasies, they’re very personal.
From the erotic to eyebrow-raising, what is one person’s red-hot vision is another’s red-hot hell. That’s why so many people keep them strictly private.
I always say in this column, be brave and brace yourself for sharing your fantasies. They can give you plenty of ideas to try out or turn you on just listening to each other.
But will the guys share all of theirs? No way, they think you’ll be shocked by some of their steamy scenarios.
So here’s the lowdown on the secret fantasies he won’t share with you:
1. Cougars, MILFs and GILFs
There’s been an explosion in online porn catering to young men who fantasise about older women, from cougars to MILFs (mothers I’d like to…) and GILFs (grandmas I’d like to…)!
It seems some are fixated on what older women have to offer. They want to be taken in hand and guided.
He won’t tell you because you might think he’s a freak, unless of course you’re older than he is.
2. Superheroes
When you and he see the latest Batman, X-Men or even Star Wars movie, he might leave with ‘ideas’. It seems many have the desire to be a superhero in bed.
He hides these as he doesn’t want to appear childish. Especially the way he imagines having a superhero sex-power.
Trust me, a guy who’s into superhero fantasies has usually named his manhood something like Captain Marvel.
3. Sex with his best mate
One he’d never own up to, but this is more common than you’d think. Many men wonder how good their best buddy is in bed.
Often this is about comparing sexual prowess. Perhaps he fantasises about a threesome, showing off how he can last longer than his best mate.
Of course, sometimes this is about bi-curiosity.
4. Sex with your best friend
Don’t panic or get paranoid, but this is quite natural. As your man gets to know your best friend, his mind wanders to what she’s like in bed.
These fantasies are often just about curiosity to know if she’d be like you or completely different.
5. Being like Magic Mike
Whether your partner’s mega-buff, well-rounded or super-slim, you can bet he’s fantasised about being a stripper. He imagines all the women throwing their panties at him.
He’s revelled in fantasies of prancing around to You Can Leave Your Hat On, just like in the Full Monty.
Dr Pam’s Position: The Cowgirl
Have fun with ‘the cowgirl’ which is perfect for some fantasy-play.
He lies flat on his back and you straddle him, facing him. Take it slowly so you don’t injure him.
As you move up and down and he holds onto your hips to steady you, enjoy fantasy-chat.
Pretend you’ve just met at a party and you’re having wild sex in the host’s bedroom. He can let loose with lots of chat like ride me baby!
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