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I have no sympathy for my stressed friend who’s a stay-at-home mum – it’s easier than folk make out, she chose to be one
She claimed being a stay-at-home-mum was far easier than going out to work
DECIDING to continue working or look after the kids full-time isn't an easy decision for most parents.
But one woman has revealed she has little sympathy for her friend after she chose to be a stay-at-home mum.
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Taking to social media, Anita revealed her friend is no longer speaking to her after she claimed it was her own choice to be a stay-at-home mum - and shouldn't expect her husband to help out with chores.
The woman, who also has kids and has been a stay-at-home mum explained that her friend had an argument with her spouse over the division of labour.
Now she needs to live with her decision.
Anita
She said: " She said that she expects her husband to also do housework when he comes home from his 60 hour a week job as a GP. He says that he is too tired and needs to rest when he is home, but she says “I work 24 hours as a SAHP, so should you”.
"She then vented to me and asked my opinion. I personally believe that being a SAHP isn’t as hard as people say it is."
Stating it was her opinion she said her and her partner took turns to be stay-at-home parents while the other worked.
"Both my husband and I had our turns being stay at home parents with both of our children," she continued.
"When one of us was staying home, we made sure that the one working outside the house had to do minimal work in the house.
"Both of us agreed that having the ability to stay at home and watch our children grow up with a privilege rather than a burden."
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The woman revealed that her friend dictated she would stay at home with the kids rather than work - despite her husband wanting both to work and split the household duties so they could spend equal time with the children.
Her friend didn't agree claiming 'she finds a man who wants to be at home unattractive.'
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Now, it seems the mum isn't happy with staying at home and doing all the chores and thought it was unreasonable her husband wouldn't help.
She told her friend she agreed with the husband and that he should relax in the evenings considering how exhausting being a doctor is.
"I then politely reminded her of how she chose this, she refused to accept an arrangement with her husband in which childcare is shared, so now she needs to live with her decision," she added.
But it didn't go down well and her friend is no longer speaking to her.
She went on to ask if she was being unreasonable for her response.
The post uploaded to has garnered a huge response from fellow parents - many of whom agreed with the woman.
One person wrote: "Sounds like she’s regretting her choice and is unhappy, not necessarily harder just doesn’t want to do it."
Another commented: "Being a full time working parents is basically being a SAHP who works 40 hours a week. It’s not like parenting is part time is it? It’s not like chores and washing don’t exist for people with jobs. Your friend would do my nut tbh."
"Honestly, unless your children have additional needs, being a SAHP is easier. Whether it works for you or makes you happy is quite a different matter," penned a third.
Meanwhile a fourth said: "She asked for your opinion, if she just wanted to vent then she needed to say so. YANBU for giving your opinion when asked."
"I have also been a SAHP and a working full time parent. Working full time is far harder whatever people say,” claimed a fifth.
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Someone else added: "To be honest, I’ve done both. Being a SAHP was boring, but much easier."
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