Gran, 52, credits sex with strangers with improving her marriage and now even arranges secret THREESOMES for her husband
A GRAN of five who enjoys swinging with her husband has praised sex with strangers for helping spice up her marriage.
Jackie and John Melfi – both 52 – engage in sex with other people (both men and women), go to swingers events together and even treat each other to surprise threesomes.
The pair – both from Texas, USA – want to debunk the myths around swinging.
Jackie, who has six children from previous marriages and five grandkids, finds "the swinging lifestyle" has given her freedom to explore her sexuality in a non-judgmental environment, which has made her marriage even stronger.
Jackie has also found open love to be incredibly empowering.
She said: “Most of the time, when you say you’re into swinging, people think your relationship is lacking honesty, or there is some deception involved.
“But it’s great for my and John’s trust and communication. I believe it’s to thank for the success of our relationship.
“It keeps me young. Being introduced to the lifestyle encouraged me to say yes and try new things in life. I’ve learned to let go and I’m no longer concerned about what people will say.
“Being encouraged to be openly sexual as a woman has blown my mind. Exploring and having positive reinforcement and affirmation from my partner is great too.”
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While the couple usually meet the men and women they swing with at events, they sometimes treat each other to a surprise threesome.
John, who has two children and two grandchildren from previous relationships, explained: “I once got an attractive man to come into our bedroom and surprise Jackie while we were having sex.
“I’ve also organised for a friend to stay with Jackie and keep her entertained when I’ve been out of town before.
“It might sound odd to some people, but seeing how happy and confident it makes Jackie feel is so rewarding. Our love is real and we’re just like any other married couple.”
The pair started dating after Jackie split from her second husband.
Despite feeling their "instantaneous connection", Jackie was a little surprised when she found out that John owned a number of swingers’ clubs.
She said: “Due to John’s work, the topic came up pretty early on. I’d grown up in a traditional and conservative household where we went to church three times per week.
“John, on the other hand, had always been very open-minded and had his first threesome after graduating from high school.
“I had some misconceptions as I’d been taught swinging wasn’t positive at all – I thought the couple must not love each other, or were using it as an excuse to cheat."
After discussing it for a few months, Jackie finally felt comfortable to give the lifestyle a try.
She said: “I suppose I’d always felt more free than my upbringing taught. I felt like something was missing. Meeting John gave me the freedom to explore that side of myself.”
The couple found a man on Craigslist (an American classified advertising site) who was willing to meet them in his hotel room.
John, who owns the Colette Social Swinger nightclubs explained: “He was visiting from out of town, and had posted some pictures of himself.
"There were a few men on there, but he seemed like the nicest, most sincere, and more gentlemanly than the others, so we gave him a shot.”
Jackie added: “I was really surprised. I’d been so nervous and had so many fears going into it, but it was so different from anything I’d experienced. There were so many emotions and they were all incredibly positive.
“It really did bring us closer. Having so much love and compassion coming from John in that situation made me realise all the possibilities of swinging.
“Everything suddenly fell into place and I was free to express myself sexually.”
After that experience, the couple started swinging more regularly with both men and women.
Within a year of the two of them first meeting, they were husband and wife.
Now, four years on, they attend swingers’ clubs and events and meet like-minded people through adult social networking sites.
Jackie said: “There could be months in between experiences, or we could spend an entire weekend with someone.
“For it to be enjoyable, there needs to be a lot of trust and a high level of emotional comfort.
“John and I talk about everything and share our fantasies with one another. If John makes a comment about an attractive woman walking past, it’s not a taboo. I love that we can do that together.
"Our children are happy for us too – they see me and John as role-models and ask for advice. I’m glad I’ve been able to show my kids the positive impact an ‘open’ marriage can have.
“It’s fostered a lot of honesty and openness. My children feel comfortable talking about sex with me and expressing their feelings.”
In 2015, the couple set up their website, , an online community which educates anyone wanting to experiment, and to debunk the misconceptions of swinging.
Through the site, the couple have coached and counselled thousands of curious people who are deciding if swinging is right for them.
They help others by sharing their personal experiences and knowledge.
John explains: “When you imagine the typical swinger, it’s the 70s image of swapping keys and wife-swapping but it’s much more than that.
“In my clubs, a lot of people come just to watch, to be watched or to soak up the sexual atmosphere. Swingers are really varied people, you don’t just have to swap partners to be one.”
Earlier this month we brought you the story of another sex-loving British couple who revealed what saucy swinging parties are really like, and news of a new cruise for swingers which promises naughty nautical nights.