My sister secretly dated & got ENGAGED to my ex – she wants me as her maid of honour, but I refuse to go to the wedding
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A WOMAN has been left outraged after discovering that her sister is secretly dating her former fiancé.
The couple are now engaged, and the woman is refusing to go to the wedding, despite being asked to be maid of honour.
Taking to Reddit, the 28-year-old revealed that she and her former partner Mike had been together for five years, and engaged for two.
They had planned to marry last summer, but three months before the wedding, she found out he had been cheating on her.
She said: “It was devastating and I called off the wedding immediately”.
The woman said that Mike then moved away and she began to move on with her life.
However, one year later, the woman’s sister Lily revealed to her that she had been secretly dating Mike, and the couple were now engaged.
She added that her parents had known about the relationship for a few months, but kept quiet “to protect her”.
“My head was spinning and I felt like I was going to pass out”, the woman said.
Lily had promised that the relationship hadn’t started before her sister and Mike broke up, and tried to justify the relationship by claiming that they were meant to be.
The woman said: “I felt betrayed on so many levels.
“I told them all that I wanted nothing to do with their wedding and stormed out”.
The woman said that she has been asked to be Lily’s maid of honour, but is refusing to attend the ceremony
The post was flooded with thousands of comments from social media users, many of whom shared their disbelief at the situation.
One person said: “My gosh, it is so messed up she is marrying your ex who cheated on you.
“The fact that they were secretly dating makes me think she was the other woman. I don’t blame you for not going.
15 Relationship red flags to look out for
Red flags are warning signs that indicate unhealthy or manipulative behaviour. When you encounter relationship red flags, it’s a good time to pause and reflect on the dynamic you really share with that person.
- Overly controlling behaviour
- Lack of trust
- Feeling low self-esteem
- Physical, emotional, or mental abuse
- Substance abuse
- Narcissism
- Anger management issues
- Codependency
- Inability to resolve conflict
- Constant jealousy
- Gaslighting
- Lack of emotional intelligence
- Negatively affecting your relationship with family and friends
- Inability to communicate openly
- Lack of social connection or friends
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“I’m sorry this is happening. Your parents are wrong as well. But, your sister is the worst.”
Another person said: “If he cheated once, he’ll cheat again. Don’t go to the wedding”.
A third person said: “Your sister shouldn’t have been in contact with Mike after your breakup – that was already a huge betrayal. “
A fourth added: “Don’t go to the wedding.
“Your family chose your sister over you and at this point, there is no coming back from it.
“I’d cut them off, blast them on social media, then block them.”
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