My husband of 13 years is refusing to spend a penny on our IVF because it’s ‘my medical issue’ stopping us have babies
Gobsmacked readers are urging the woman to file for divorce
A DEVASTATED woman has shared the heart-breaking story of her hubby refusing to spend money on their IVF treatment.
In the heated argument, the man, whom she was been married with for 13 years, told as their infertility was her medical problem, she needed to fund it herself.
However, this is not the only bizarre thing that was said that night.
Sharing the devastating story to an online parenting group, the woman explained that despite to fall pregnant ”for so long” they ”haven’t been able to do it”.
The Redditor went on: “A friend of mine suggested we try IVF, and I told my husband.
”He agreed to the suggestion but the cost kind of had him hesitating. IVF sessions are costly, but we can afford them.
“My husband said he wasn’t sure we should take this route. He pointed out how one session isn’t guaranteed and that we’d have to pay for more.
”Again, I mentioned how he and I can afford it with our money combined, he looked at me intently then told me that “logically”, since I’m the cause of infertility then he thought that I should handle the cost of IVF sessions by myself.”
The hubby, who said it to her ”face straight”, went on to add that he didn’t feel ”obliged to pay” for her ”medical issues”.
After totally losing it, the anonymous woman packed her belongings and dashed out of their home to stay with her mother.
Despite receiving a harsh text from him saying ”truth hurts”, the woman’s family has blamed her for ”overriding his feelings and that he had the right to open up”.
Seeking advice from fellow internet users, she wondered: “Have I overreacted?”
Unsurprisingly, commenters were empathetic to the woman, and reassured her that she had reacted more than appropriately.
One wrote: “That’s one of the shi**iest things I’ve seen written on these boards.
”Be glad he showed you that side of himself before you had a child with him.”
Others echoed the sentiment, with someone else writing: “No, you didn’t overreact.
”Your husband’s comments were incredibly hurtful and insensitive. It’s a shared journey, not just your “medical issue.”
”You deserve support and understanding, not blame.”
A third chimed in: ”Your husband has violated his marriage vows in the most egregious way possible – he has violated the “in sickness and in health” clause. He has shown his true colours.
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If you’re not eligible for NHS treatment, you can visit a private clinic – this is often ”very spendy”, according to expert Rachel Fitzd.
“On average it costs between £2,500 and £5,000 WITHOUT any extras. Add in blood tests, scans etc and the price goes up,” she said.
That’s just for one cycle of treatment – and is some cases, you may need more.
“The expense can go up and up and up with each additional treatment,” she warned.
Rachel urged to shop around, “but be wary of going abroad.”
“There might not be the same regulations in place to protect you,” she explained.
”What will he say if you get cancer???? “Oh honey, I’m not contributing to your chemotherapy… your cancer is a YOU problem.”
Amongst the readers of the post, there was no support for the hubby, with some advising the woman only one solution – to break up with him.
“You’re dodging a bullet. Do you really wanna have kids with this man?
”Next thing you know you’d have a kid and he’d do nothing at all for them claiming they came out of your body so they’re your responsibility.
“Divorce is looking good from this perspective.”