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A MUM has come under fire for the co-parenting approach she takes with her ex.
The woman revealed that she and her former partner go on holidays together with their children.
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In a on Mumsnet, the user explained the unique set-up she has with her ex-husband.
"My husband and I have split but want to stay amicable and in the children’s lives as much as possible," she wrote.
"I can assure you I in no way want to get back with him and he feels the same."
She explained that their circumstances make it easier to go on family trips together.
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"Our children are young and very different in ages and interests so two adults is easier for things like theme parks and some holidays," she said.
The woman added that neither she or her husband have any parents or siblings to help.
She also explained that their co-parenting arrangement means neither parent miss out on any "firsts."
"We don’t want to miss events like first ski trips just because we aren’t ‘in love’ any more," she said.
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The woman acknowledged that as their children get older the set-up "will probably tail off."
However, in the mean time she said that she and her ex "plan to do Christmas day together."
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Speaking about potential issues with future relationships, she said: "Surely any jealousy on the part of a new partner is their issue."
Mumsnet users shared their thoughts on the set-up in the comments section.
One person called the arrangement "inappropriate and confusing for the children."
"It’s confusing for the children, and inappropriate if either has a new partner," agreed another reader.
"Too confusing and mixed messages sent to the children," pointed out a third commenter.
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"You're together or you're not."
"I'm practically best friends with my ex but I'd never go on a day out or holiday with him," wrote another parent.
"It would confuse our children amongst other things."
"When one of you meets a new partner, it will cause problems," said one reader.
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"In what world would your partner be happy with you going on holiday with your ex?" asked another commenter.
"You're both going to find it difficult to find someone who would put up with that."
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