Six oral sex tips you NEED to know about… from perfecting your technique to why your diet is important
Oral sex is literally saving the sex lives of 20 per cent of couples, so here is everything you need to know to hitting the spot
ORAL sex is an important part of bedroom antics, with foreplay for both men and women a pleasurable precursor to the main event.
For anyone worried about the act or their technique, here are six tips which will blow your partner’s mind away.
Our sex and relationship columnist Dr Pam Spurr regularly brings you must-know info for the bedroom and beyond. Follow Dr Pam on Twitter
Oral sex is literally saving the sex lives of 20 per cent of couples. That’s the stat on how many use oral pleasure to please her.
That’s because many women finding it hard climaxing through classic full-on sex. So oral needs to be part of your randy repertoire.
Men notoriously love to receive it too, so it goes both ways.
And one study from the State University of New York found there were surprising benefits in semen which contains mood altering chemicals like natural antidepressants.
This is all well and good if your partner swallows and doesn’t spit as if they’re at a wine tasting!
Of course you need to know each other’s sexual histories if you’re going to have unprotected oral sex.
I hear eyebrows raising across the land with many still not realising you need protection during oral.
Why else were flavoured condoms invented?! So she can enjoy a cheeky cherry or a minty munch (without teeth!).
Ditto she needs to be covered with sturdy cling-film or dental dam. This makes sure you don’t exchange saliva and her intimate fluids, just in case either of you has an infection.
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But skipping on from safer to sizzling sex, here are six must know things about oral –
*One set of sexology boffins found oral sex makes a couple feel more bonded. It’s such an intimate thing to do after all.
And probably why some swingers agree their partner can have full penetrative sex with a third party but not oral.
So boost your loved-up feelings by trying it!
*Does your partner back off from trying it? Check out the two main reasons why men and women avoid it – some fear the taste and hygiene issues, and some fear they’ll be rubbish at giving good oral.
Always have a sensual shower or bath before suggesting it.
Plus let them know exactly what you like, and bish-bosh they’ll be ready to ‘nosh’!
*The biggest complaint about oral technique is men who do the ‘washing machine’ technique!
It’s like their tongue is stuck on spin cycle, going around, around, and around again on her clitoral zone.
Vary things between circular, lapping, gentle poking, etc.
*Sex-periment to get the oral party started. She can try ‘worshipping at the altar’ technique - he stands and she kneels between his legs (on a pillow for her knees, otherwise it hurts). She gently takes his testicles in one hand while with the other she guides his penis into her mouth.
He can try ‘across the bridge’ technique. She’s lying in bed on her back, and he lies with his head at right angles to her hips.
With his tongue, he laps across her pubic mound and clitoral zone. This sideways sensation really teases her. She’ll be begging for him to slip between her legs and take it all the way.
Oral sex is literally saving the sex lives of 20 per cent of couples
Dr Pam Spurr
*People forget that trimming and ‘strimming’ their pubic hair is crucial to their partner being able to give pleasure.
A partner doesn’t want to hack their way through a jungle like an intrepid explorer! So both men and women should trim and strim, even if they don’t want to wax or shave.
*Never forget that what you eat affects what you taste like down below. This is not a myth! So if you eat, for example, salty or sweet you’ll taste salty or sweet. So if you’re at the cinema on a date check out whether they order salty or sweet popcorn!
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