My girlfriend cheated on me on Christmas Day, but I don’t know what to do – people think I’m silly for taking her back
AN ex-boyfriend has opened up about the devastating moment his world fell apart on Christmas Day when he found out his girlfriend of 2.5 years had cheated on him.
Sharing his story on Reddit, the 18-year-old described the emotional whirlwind of their sudden breakup and the betrayal that shattered their once-loving relationship.
The heartfelt post, which has quickly gained attention online, reveals the highs and lows of their time together and the pain of an unexpected ending.
Reflecting on their relationship, he wrote: “We met in high school and instantly fell in love."
“She wasn’t just my girlfriend; she was my best friend.
“We had the same sense of humour, always laughed with each other, and did everything together.
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“Despite how young we are, we dreamed of how we’d be years in the future.”
However, the relationship took an unexpected turn when he received a breakup text from her on Christmas Day, citing stress as the reason for ending things.
“I called bullshit right away, saying that if she was stressed, she would’ve talked to me about it instead of just dumping me,” he explained.
“I was in shock. Everything seemed to be going normal in our relationship except for two days before Christmas.
"She started to take longer to respond to my texts and give dry responses.”
Despite his initial disbelief, she insisted that the relationship had felt different over the past month - but he disagreed.
The story took an even darker turn when his curiosity led him to log into her Instagram account, where he discovered messages that shattered his trust.
“I found messages with her friend describing how she cheated on me and how she enjoyed it,” he revealed.
“I told her I need time and that it would take forever for me to regain her trust.”
Despite the heartbreak, the Reddit user admitted to feeling conflicted about their future.
"You should also look at how they place their phone down when not in use. If they face the phone with the screen facing down, then they could be hiding something."
They start telling you less about their day
When partners cheat they can start to avoid you, this could be down to them feeling guilty or because it makes it easier for them to lie to you.
"If you feel like your partner has suddenly begun to avoid you and they don't want to do things with you any more or they stop telling you about their day then this is another red flag."
"Partners often avoid their spouses or tell them less about their day because cheating can be tough, remembering all of your lies is impossible and it's an easy way to get caught out," says Aaron.
Their libido changes
Your partner's libido can change for a range of reasons so it may not be a sure sign of cheating but it can be a red flag according to Aaron.
Aaron says: "Cheaters often have less sex at home because they are cheating, but on occasions, they may also have more sex at home, this is because they feel guilty and use this increase in sex to hide their cheating. You may also find that your partner will start to introduce new things into your sex life that weren't there before."
They become negative towards you
Cheaters know that cheating is wrong and to them, it will feel good, this can cause tension and anxiety within themselves which they will need to justify.
"To get rid of the tension they feel inside they will try to convince themselves that you are the problem and they will become critical of you out of nowhere. Maybe you haven't walked the dog that day, put the dishes away or read a book to your children before bedtime. A small problem like this can now feel like a big deal and if you experience this your partner could be cheating," warns Aaron.
Another added: “Do not get back with her. The only reason she came crying and begging for you back, is because the guy she cheated on you with doesn't want her.
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“I'm sorry this happened to you and the pain of being cheated on is immense. But you will get past this.”
A third said: “Don't do it. You and her will be better off. If you take her back, she'll remember it the next time she thinks about stepping out.”