Four women including a RAF helicopter engineer and a stripper reveal they love their jobs — but they turn off men
The single life has become the norm for four women even though they aren't short of getting attention from the opposite sex
FOR these women, single life has become the norm.
While they are not short of attention from the opposite sex, they all have one thing in common – men run a mile when they find out what they do for a living.
Nursing was voted as the “most sexy” profession by blokes in a recent survey by dating site .
So why are other careers a turn-off?
Here, JENNY FRANCIS speaks to four women to find out why their jobs make dating a disaster zone.
'Being an engineer isn't sexy or feminine. It intimidates people'
HEATHER has been single for six years and says men have always been turned off by her “unfeminine” job.
The 28-year-old from Derby says: "Almost from the moment I put on my RAF beret, my love life stopped.
"I am a woman working very much in a man’s world – I am usually the only woman on shift in my squadron of 17.
"It’s a fantastic job and I travel the world, including a tour of Afghanistan, Oman and the USA.
"But the downside is I’ve not had one date the whole time I’ve been in the RAF.
"Men don’t think it’s worth dating me because I’m only ever at home for about two weeks at a time.
"Not only that but they are also intimidated by my job – they don’t think it’s feminine or sexy to be a helicopter engineer.
"I don’t meet any men at work. They are quite patronising towards women who do the same job as them. It is frustrating but the work is so immersive and exciting.
"I started seeing one guy and he said to me, “So what do you do?”
"He probably expected me to say I worked in sales or something because when I said, 'I’m a helicopter engineer,' his face fell.
"He thought it sounded exciting but also manly. I think he felt he couldn’t compete with my career.
"Another man started chatting me up when I was home from a tour and asked me to dinner.
"I said, 'I’d love to, but I’m going to Afghanistan next week.' It rather puts the brakes on dating.
"I do want to have a relationship, get married and have children eventually.
"It’s just that men don’t tend to go for women in overalls with grease under their nails."
'I earn lots of money but guys think I'm too beautiful to approach'
CURVY Gurj has been single for four years.
The 30-year-old from Hayes, Middlesex, says men are attracted by her looks, but get too protective when she tells them she is a model. She says:
"Some men tell me: 'You are too beautiful to approach.'
";Others initially are attracted to my looks and curvaceous figure. But then I start to get the comments.
"'Do you have to wear that at work? It’s too revealing.'
"Most men I’ve tried to date hate the comments my pictures attract on social media, and can’t stand it when other men stare at me when we go out.
"You’d think men would love the fact they are dating a model – but they find it very intimidating and become so jealous and controlling.
"For an Indian woman, I haven’t chosen a conventional career.
"I wasn’t prepared to sit at home and wait to get married. For the past ten years I have worked so hard, building up a successful career I love.
"The downside has been the effect on my love life. I earn lots of money – but all this seems to put men off.
"I think the big issue is that guys do not like to feel they are coming second to a career. They want to be your first priority.
"I want men to appreciate me for who I am, and that includes my career. I’ve had a couple of long-term relationships, but both ended largely because of my work – either through jealousy, feeling inferior to my looks or not liking my unpredictable schedule.
"I do all sorts of modelling, including bikinis, and some men don’t like the fact that male photographers take pictures of me when I’m half-naked. It challenges their ego.
"I hope eventually to have a settled relationship, but it’s going to have to be with a very special guy who won’t get jealous."
'Men are put off by my success — they want to be more powerful'
SUITED and booted Pippa, 39, sells multi-million-pound IT packages to companies in the City.
She has been single for three years and lives in Wembley Park, North West London, with her 12-year-old daughter, Amelie. Pippa says:
"Quite recently, a guy turned to me and said: 'Pippa, I can’t keep up with you. You’re too much for me.'
"I laughed, not sure whether to be flattered or not.
"It was another relationship over before it had begun, because men can’t deal with my job. I’ve been a single mum since my daughter was two and in all that time, I’ve only had fleeting relationships.
"If men have jobs that aren’t as impressive as mine or earn a lot less – which most do – I don’t fancy them.
"Most of the guys I encounter at work are married and just want an affair. So often, I’ve been told: 'You’re mistress material, not a wife.' My success emasculates them.
"I’ve worked so hard to build my career.
"I left school early and have worked up to a point where I own two homes, drive a Mercedes S-Class and am earning about £200,000 a year.
"I’m very independent, very driven and know what I want.
"I suppose you could say that I’m a go-getter, and I don’t see why I should wait for a man to provide me with the luxuries of life.
"My hours are often quite long. I’m usually working by 7am and I’ll work until 8 or 9 at night. In my free time, I like to be with my daughter so there’s not a lot of time for relationships.
"When I’ve dated guys in the City, they’ve been so competitive, trying to prove themselves.
"They constantly try to make themselves sound more powerful than me.
"In the past I have even tried to hide my success but I quickly realised I didn’t want to do that to find love."
'Any true love would never make me give up a job that I love'
BODY-CONFIDENT Jaylee, 30, blames her stripping jobs for the fact that she is “eternally single”.
Jaylee, from Bournemouth, says men love her looks – but as soon as she reveals she takes her clothes off for a living, they back away.
Jaylee has been single for seven years. She says:
"I’ve met nice men but the minute they see what I do, they ask me why or tell me I shouldn’t be doing it.
"I don’t feel like I should justify my job to anyone, so we part ways. I started out as part of an all-girl dance troupe 13 years ago then realised that I could make lots of money stripping at stag dos.
"I eventually set up my own kissogram and stripping business called jayleeglamour.co.uk. I now perform at various parties, stag dos and even for VIPs.
"Most people book me to perform sexy dances and go topless, but it’s never sleazy.
"I have done well and still get a rush from what I do.
"I have dozens of costumes including firefighter, mechanic, cowgirl and burlesque dancer.
"At first, men like the fantasy and ask me to wear my costumes for them at home.
"But they never want to discover the real me – the one who wears normal underwear.
"The other extreme is a man who wants long-term romance, but recently a guy said: 'It’s me or the job.' I chose my job.
"Any true love would never make me give it up.
"I’ve tried dating apps and when my dates ask me what I do, I always tell them I’m in the entertainment industry. Then they push and push until I tell the truth.
"That’s when they either just want to see me in my costumes or tell me I shouldn’t be doing the job.
"I just can’t win."
