Mum sparks fierce debate by asking if it’s stingy to take a £10 note as a wedding gift
Mumsnet users have been fiercely debating over whether it's "acceptable" to give £10 as a wedding gift. Some think it's fine, others call it "cheeky"
KNOWING what to give a couple on their wedding day can be a minefield: “What’s the standard amount?”, “Do I have to give a gift if I’ve only been invited to the reception?” and “Should I stick to the list?” are all questions we ask as guests.
One woman, who is in the middle of this exact conundrum, has sparked a huge debate on whether she should give a £10 note as a wedding gift.
Mumsnet user 'roconnell' explained that she and her partner had been invited to the evening reception of one of her university friends' weddings.
In the invite, the couple wrote a poem saying: "We have everything we could possibly need, but a little extra cash would be great."
Being students, roconnell explained she and her partner could only afford to give £10 as a gift and asked the forum their thoughts.
The post sparked a fierce debate, with some calling it perfectly fine and others saying it was stingy.
Many people saw the offer of £10 to be sufficient, explaining that for a reception-only invite, many couples don't usually expect a gift at all.
One user wrote: "I wouldn't worry at all for an evening invite, £10 is more than I would expect."
Others suggested the user shouldn't give money at all, and instead just take a nice card.
Lots of users who had hosted weddings themselves, said they would be more than happy with the £10 gift.
However, there were some who took to the forum to call the £10 "mean" and "cheeky".
One user said that they would feel "embarrassed" to put a tenner in a card for a wedding.
Some suggested the OP (original poster, in forum lingo) should just try and save a little more in preparation for the big day.
Some users of the forum suggested the mum shouldn't go at all, when taking all other costs into consideration.
They pointed out the gift was just a small part of the costs that go towards attending a wedding, including travel, outfit and bar bills.
One of the most popular suggestions was that instead of £10, she should take a bottle of prosecco or wine.
In the end, roconnell decided to attend the wedding reception giving £10 in a card and hoping that her friend would understand.
It's certainly turned out to be a divisive topic.
What do you think?
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