Mum slams bridesmaids who try to make her fork out for booze at her best friend’s hen do – even though she’s pregnant
Some Mumsnet users are warning the expectant mum to avoid the hen do altogether... so what would YOU do?
A PREGNANT mum has be warned to skip her best mate's hen do - after moaning about the "spiralling costs" of the weekend away.
, Dawn1992 said being asked to fork out for booze by her fellow bridesmaids - even though she can't drink as she's expecting a baby - nearly pushed her over the edge.
"The cost of it seems to be growing arms and legs," the bridesmaid wrote. "(The bride) would be very unhappy about the costs I can assure you.
"The bridesmaids have had to pay for people who have pulled out to cover the cost of the house for the weekend.
"Now the other bridesmaids are demanding another £40pp for alcohol and food.
"I'm happy to pay £20 for food costs but they all know I'm pregnant and will not be drinking but are still expecting me to pay for alcohol.. aibu (am I being unreasonable) to refuse?
"I've also refused to pay for a minibus as I will not be on it... I've kept my mouth shut so far but it's getting increasingly difficult. I'm just getting really ticked off at the whole thing!!"
As 12 girls are coming on the weekend away, the food budget was set to be £480 for a two-day break - not including one lunch out.
And her fellow mums have rallied around her, with Violletta describing the whole thing as a "f***ing liberty!!"
While NewYearNewMe18 advised her to drop out altogether, writing: "I simply wouldn't go. End of. Feign illness if you feel you must save face."
And Trills reckons Dawn should discuss the drama with the bride, adding: "The surprise aspect is not set in stone."
PercyPigAddict, meanwhile, said: "You're being entirely reasonable, and don't let anyone tell you any different!
"How on earth can they think you're 'getting away with not paying for alcohol', when you won't be drinking any? Idiots."
But others felt the bridesmaid was being a bit stingey.
Mysteryfairy wrote: "You should probably make a token contribution to the bride's alcohol if you are all paying for her."
And LaPampa commented: "Will you be consuming soft drinks though?
"When I’ve organised parties of various kinds the non alcoholic drinks add a fair amount to the food bill and it needs to be paid for somehow."
Buttercupsanddaisies, meanwhile, slammed Dawn, writing: "If OP (original poster) is the bf and bridesmaid I don't understand why she's not organising it herself?
"To criticise those going out of their way is a bit cheeky I think.
"It all sounds a bit ungrateful. I absolutely get the not paying for the bus etc but all this hassle caused over an extra £20 is embarrassing!
"It's her bad hen do and now she's got the mother on side there's going to be a real s***ty atmosphere over food and drink that one person now controls!"
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And Kik275 advised: "Next time ensure deposits are taken for accommodation. You really shouldn't be paying for people who have backed out."
Luckily for Dawn's, the bride's mum took a firm stance on the whole thing.
She later added: "Bride's mum has just came to the group chat and said absolutely not.
"No one is paying for alcohol we bring our own if we're drinking and she wants it reduced to £10 per head for food to get an asda shop delivered for us arriving. She's not a happy bunny".
Earlier this week, a mum sparked a fierce debate by asking if it’s stingy to take a £10 note as a wedding gift.
And a pregnant woman has revealed her list of rules for family to follow when they visit her newborn baby… and people are outraged.