Parents’ biggest stress triggers have been revealed – and the weekly shop and bedtime are NOT popular
The average parent admits to finding themselves feeling stressed six times a day
GETTING kids to bed, doing the weekly food shop and meal times have been named on a list of parents’ biggest stress triggers.
A study of 2,000 mums and dads found the daily worries which put parents on edge also include bath time, getting homework finished and keeping screen time to a minimum.
Getting home from work in time to wish them goodnight, knowing the right foods to feed your kids and successfully getting out the door on time also featured on the list.
While just paying for petrol is a nightmare for a third of parents who have to get their young children in and out of the car.
It also emerged the average parent finds themselves feeling stressed six times a day and believe the age of five is when children peak and become their most demanding.
The research was conducted by BPme, a new app which allows customers to pay for their fuel without leaving their car, helping reduce the stresses and strains of time pressed parents.
Daniel Slater, Digital Execution Manager for BP said: “As researchers have found, British parents have a hard job of getting through the day without losing their cool.
“With children in tow, the simplest of tasks can seem monumental at times – even the simple job of filling up the car with fuel takes twice as long when you have to negotiate car seats and straps to get the entire family out of the vehicle to pay.
“A day of battling the wills of children can be exhausting, which is why parents are adopting time saving apps such as BPme to make life that little bit easier.”
The research also revealed the naughty antics kids are getting up to when parents turn their back briefly, including sneaking sweets, putting on make-up and putting pants on their head.
As well as typical drawing on the walls, kids have also drawn on the carpet, their friends and even the pet dog.
A quarter of children have eaten chocolate and ended up with more of it on their face than in their tummy, with other kids covering themselves in paint when mum or dad has been preoccupied.
Other cheeky children have climbed into unusual spaces including the dog’s bed, the dishwasher or a laundry basket.
The study also found children wreak the most havoc and cause the most stress in the home (46 per cent) but continue their chaotic ways at the shops (13 per cent) and when out in restaurants (10 per cent).
TOP 20 PARENTAL STRESS TRIGGERS
- When they get poorly
- Getting them into bed
- Getting them to eat certain foods
- Getting them to stop playing on screens such as phones or watching TV
- Getting them to tidy their rooms
- Getting them to clean their teeth
- Meal times
- Getting them ready in the mornings
- Getting them to school on time
- Getting them dressed for school
- Doing the weekly shop
- Making sure they’ve done their homework
- Remembering important school dates
- Getting them to eat anything at all
- Bath time
- Keeping an eye on the sugar content of foods
- Getting them out of bed
- Shopping for new clothes/shoes
- Remembering homework deadlines
- Getting them to put their shoes on in the morning
Eighty-two per cent of parents said their offspring are a bit naughty when they aren’t looking, but two-thirds have had moments where they’ve found their kids’ antics more funny than stressful.
It also emerged three-quarters spend longer, now they have children, doing simple tasks than before they became parents.
Just getting out the front door takes an additional 12 minutes every time, with kids adding 14 minutes onto the food shop and 11 extra minutes just to get dressed in the morning.
TOP 10 THINGS KIDS GET UP TO WHEN PARENTS' BACKS ARE TURNED
- Broken something
- Argued with a sibling
- Drawn on the walls
- Worn their parents’ shoes
- Unrolled the toilet roll everywhere
- Eaten chocolate – and covered themselves in it
- Taken all their clothes off
- Put things in shoes
- Squeezed a bottle of something to make a mess
- Hidden cars, keys, wallet or the TV remote
Having breakfast together adds a further 12 minutes with the hustle and bustle of children, with walking to the local shop taking a further 11 minutes.
And mums and dads use up an additional six minutes loading and unloading the kids just to pay for petrol at the counter.
Parents reckon they spend nearly 40 minutes a day feeling anxious as a result of their children running amok and spend eight days of the month feeling like they need a little break or some ‘me-time’.
While many feel having babies and toddlers is the toughest period, thanks to the sleepless nights and crying, mothers of 11 and 12-year-olds suffer the worst.
We also wrote about how to host a play-date for children with the minimal amount of the stress.
Another survey we found showed that women are more stressed out than men as they juggle family and careers.