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12 DAYS OF FRISKMAS

From mirrors on the ceiling to pillow fights, a dozen dirty ideas to keep your sex life hot this Christmas

Give your partner a festive season they won't forget by trying out 12 different dirty sex tips before the big day

THE Christmas hustle and bustle can leave your bedtime feeling chillier than the North Pole between you and your partner.

So to make sure your sex life doesn’t go the way of last year’s wrapping paper, give yourself and your lover the gift of 12 days of Friskmas.

 Give your other half a Christmas they won't be forgetting any time soon
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Give your other half a Christmas they won't be forgetting any time soonCredit: Alamy

Sexpert Kate Taylor tells Nikki Watkins all about her tips for making each day leading up to Christmas far less frosty and much more steamy.

Day 1: Good clean fun

 Try having sex in the shower to get things steamy
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Try having sex in the shower to get things steamy

SEX in the shower sounds great, but water makes the bath dangerously slippery and washes away your own natural lubrication.

To improve your grip, try the Sex In The Shower Dual Locking Suction Handle (£14.99, ) and Sex In The Shower Single Locking Suction Foot Rest (£12.99, harmonystore.co.uk).

These attach firmly to the wall but can be removed before guests use your bathroom.

Indulge Silicone Lubricant, 100ml (£8.99, ) won’t wash away, and will increase your pleasure as you play.

Day 2: Whet his app-etite

 Use this app to choose what sex position you'll be trying out tonight
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Use this app to choose what sex position you'll be trying out tonight

IF you want to send a sexy message right into your partner’s inbox, then gift him a naughty app.

Try Spin The Bottle, free on iTunes, a sexy way of using your mobile to choose which position to try that night.

There is also Sex Dice, free on iTunes, which gives you a different sexy activity to perform on each other. Just shake your phone as you would a dice.

Day 3: Spell it out

 Spell out your desires on the fridge
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Spell out your desires on the fridgeCredit: Getty - Contributor

BUY a set of Erotic Poetry Magnets (£11, ) and spell out your desires on the fridge. You can write teasing messages that promise him a night of passion, or try to make him laugh with a private joke.

If you struggle to pick up on when you’re each in the mood, you can also use the fridge to signal when your passions are running high.

Choose a magnet each and agree you will move yours to the front of the fridge when it is “game on” and hide it on the side when it is “game over”.

Day 4: Don't mind me

 You won't be able to keep your hands off each other
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You won't be able to keep your hands off each otherCredit: Getty - Contributor

During the festive period, your house is likely to be filled with people. But having Aunt Mabel in the spare room doesn’t mean turning each other on is off the table.

When your house is full of party guests, the secret is snatching moments together. Snog at every possible chance, touch each other every time you’re within arm’s reach and keep eye contact across the room.

The sexual tension will build and, by the time your guests have left, you won’t be able to keep your hands off each other.

Day 5: Have a pillow fight

 By some cheap feather pillows for maximum impact
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By some cheap feather pillows for maximum impactCredit: Getty - Contributor

A FUN way to turn minor festive gripes into major turn-ons is to settle the score with a play fight. Buy some cheap feather pillows and keep them in the bedroom. Softly tickle, tackle and thump one another with the pillows until your irritation turns to lust.

Exercising restraint in bed is also a winner. Tying your partner up is a fantastic way to slow down the pace of your lovemaking, while upping the intensity.

Knot scarves around his wrists and ankles and then tantalise him with a long, hot striptease. It works for you too.

Day 6: Ramp up desire all day

 Send your partner saucy voice notes
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Send your partner saucy voice notesCredit: Getty - Contributor

FOREPLAY doesn’t have to begin in person. If your Christmas party plans mean you and your love haven’t got the free time to seduce each other, try using technology.

Pick a night where you will at least rendezvous back in bed after spending the evening doing your own thing. Send a few saucy voice messages to your partner’s What’s App letting them know what they can expect later on.

That’s certain to keep the fires burning, preventing festive burnout.

Day 7: Nothing to see here

 Whisper dirty requests in your partner's ears
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Whisper dirty requests in your partner's earsCredit: Getty - Contributor

FIND an evening in your calendar when you are going to be out together somewhere stuffy and formal. It could be an office Christmas party or drinks out with your fanciest neighbours.

On that night, swap your usual thermal opaques and high-waisted Spanx for sheer hold-ups and your tiniest, laciest undies.

During the evening, slip off your knickers and put them in your partner’s pocket. Then simply carry on your evening with poise.

Keep distracting him by whispering dirty requests in his ears throughout the evening, until he can’t control himself any longer and drags you home.

Day 8: Sweet like chocolate

 Dark chocolate is guaranteed to get you both in the mood
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Dark chocolate is guaranteed to get you both in the moodCredit: Getty - Contributor

DARK chocolate contains L-arginine, an amino acid that sends blood rushing towards your nether-regions. Set up a dark-chocolate fountain in the bedroom, with a selection of passion-boosting foods like berries.

Use the warm chocolate to write messages on your body for your partner to lick away. You can also make chilli chocolate truffles by mixing melted dark chocolate with fruit cake crumbs, adding chilli flakes, rolling into balls and chilling.

The raisins in the cake are another rich source of L-arginine, and chilli is known to boost sex drive by raising your nerves’ sensitivity.

Day 9: Sexy boudoir buns

 Organise a sexy photoshoot to boost your confidence
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Organise a sexy photoshoot to boost your confidenceCredit: Getty - Contributor

INSTEAD of sending your man a saucy selfie from the work bathroom, give him an eyeful he won’t forget by booking a pro boudoir photoshoot.

These are available all over the country and are run by specialist teams who know how to coax out your inner sex goddess.These shoots give you a full hair and beauty makeover, then snap you in a selection of erotic lingerie.

At the end of the day, choose your sexiest picture and give it to you partner as a kinky surprise.

Day 10: Lap of luxury

 Face your man during sex and make sure to maintain eye contact
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Face your man during sex and make sure to maintain eye contactCredit: Getty - Contributor

THE quickest way to get your partner’s engine revving is to sit on his lap. In this position, you can control the speed of your lovemaking, while your partner enjoys unparalleled views.

This position also gives you the added bonus of closeness. Face towards your man if you want to try the tantric technique of holding eye contact while you have sex.

And make sure you kiss — saliva released at the moment of orgasm is said to have unique bonding powers.

Day 11: Moment of reflection

 Book a night at Kraken’s Lair bedroom at the Hotel Pelirocco, Brighton, so your partner can watch himself having sex with you
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Book a night at Kraken’s Lair bedroom at the Hotel Pelirocco, Brighton, so your partner can watch himself having sex with you

IF there’s anything your partner loves more than watching you in bed, it’s watching himself have sex with you in bed. Men are stimulated through visual input, which is why they love watching X-rated films, keeping the light on and buying you impractical underwear.

To blow his mind, along with the budget, book a night at one of the many hotels that have mirrored ceilings in the rooms. Try the Kraken’s Lair bedroom at the Hotel Pelirocco, Brighton, from £96 a night.

For a budget-friendly way to indulge, Wilko sells peel-and-stick mirror-effect tiles (£11 for four, wilko.com) you can attach to your ceiling.

Day 12: Step up your gift giving

 Remind your partner of the best sex you've both had in 2018
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Remind your partner of the best sex you've both had in 2018Credit: Getty - Contributor

PULL together a memory book of the year and present this thoughtful gift to your partner.

Handwrite it and ensure it is filled with anecdotes of the best sex you and your partner have had in 2018.

Then tuck a little Christmas card into the cover, containing a sexy message spelling out what you would most like them to do to you to celebrate the Christmas holidays.

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