‘Bridezilla’ asks bridesmaid to dye her ginger hair as it ‘clashes with the colour scheme’… but the real reason for her request is even worse
Apparently she believed her friend’s red hair would "clash" with her wedding colours and be "too attention-grabbing" in photos
BEING a member of a wedding party comes with great responsibilities - but one bride took it way too far and asked her ginger bridesmaid to dye her hair for the big day.
At first, the bride made the decision because she believed her friend’s red hair will "clash" with her wedding colours and be "too attention-grabbing" in photos.
Baffled, the redhead, who is bridesmaid for a daughter of a family friend, initially took to to seek advice about this alarming request – which has since gone viral.
Many were quick to tell her she wasn't unreasonable at all and told her it was a ridiculous demand.
The bridezilla request
Bridehairthrowaway wrote: “Yesterday morning I received an email from Ella.
“It seemed pretty standard but then when she got into the look she wants for her bridesmaids she wrote ‘Bridehairthrowaway, you’ll need to dye your hair for the day, I’ll take you to my hairdresser and cover the cost :)’.
“This had never been mentioned to me. I'm a natural ginger, so it’s not like I have an outrageous hair colour, although Ella and her other bridesmaids are all brunettes.
“I texted Ella about it, she told me my hair would clash with the wedding colours and that brides get a veto over pretty much every aspect of her bridesmaids’ appearances.
“She also mentioned my hair is quite 'attention-grabbing' and I’d take away from the cohesiveness of the group. I told her I wasn't comfortable dying my hair. She said she’d get back to me but hoped I’d reconsider.
“Am I being reasonable here? I've never been involved in a wedding before so I'm not quite sure what’s expected of me.
“I’ve gotten some messages from the other bridesmaids who are telling me I should just do it.”
One user, tsukiii, wrote: “You are not being unreasonable at all! I'm planning my wedding now, and I'd never ask bridesmaids to dye their hair! This is bridezilla-level s***, like she's scared of being upstaged by her 'maids, so she's making crazy demands.”
Another user SaucySaboteuse commented: “She's being ridiculous. Tell her you'd love to be a bridesmaid, but you won't dye your hair. And if she insists on the hair, you should decline to be a bridesmaid.
"This is not the last absurd and entitled demand she will make of you. Save yourself some trouble. Back out now."
Bickets commented: "She knows you're an actual person, right? Not a scarf or purse or some other accessory whose entire purpose is to make her look better? I really, really think you should back out of this wedding as politely as you can now. That level of bridezilla is only going to get worse."
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But in a soap opera twist, it turns out the bridezilla actually asked her to dye her locks because her fiancé has a fetish for redheads.
As a result, she posted an update saying she no longer wants to be a part of the bride’s wedding.
The real reason is...
“I didn't hear anything from Ella regarding the hair dying so I spoke to my parents, who in turn spoke to Ella's parents who then must have spoken to Ella's older brother (27M), who I will call Charles, who I've also grown close to over the past few years.
A little bit of background, Ella has been with her fiancé Pete (27ishM?) since she was 15, he was (and I assume still is) a friend of Charles, which is how Ella and Pete met.
“Charles called me and informed me that Pete has a redhead fetish. It's something they always joked about in their teens (although that joking stopped when Pete began dating his younger sister).
“Ella actually dyed her hair red (something I sort of remember) for several years in her teens but it basically became too damaged and costly to continue doing and she returned to her natural hair colour. Charles would bet this is why she's requesting I dye my hair.
“This all kind of made sense. I've met Pete a couple of times and Ella always seemed to be in a rush to leave the conversation and move on. He also stared a lot.
“Why was I even asked to be a bridesmaid? Her parents ‘strongly encouraged’ it, and are footing the entire bill. I'm generally fairly quiet and accommodating person so I guess she figured I'd just go with it.
“I emailed Ella to tell her I'm no longer able to be a bridesmaid, I haven't heard anything back although I know she's seen the message. I will probably not be going to the wedding at all. The whole situation is just too weird and uncomfortable, I'm assuming there's no coming back from this.”
Ladies, before you think about enlisting a bridesmaid this summer, don’t be a bridezilla and ask any of them to drastically change their physical appearance.
And make sure you're not marrying a man with an unhealthy obsession for flame-haired women.